Can someone tell me when being a BBW - Big & Beautiful Woman {aka fat, overweight, big, plus and/or queen-sized chic} started meaning the same thing as BDW {Big, Desperate Woman}? My mailman be tripping sometimes, so maybe I didn't get the memo.
While I'm sure there are plenty of guys who have a genuine attraction & admiration for us plus-sized sistas, I've noticed that some of these clowns are just plain predators.
Sisters beware! Some of these guys will do whatever it takes to get you. They will tell you exactly what they think you want to hear & charm the pants right off of you, if you allow them. They are good at seeking out those who may have esteem issues or those who simply haven't been told they were beautiful enough in their lives. They see you as an untapped market & they're cashing in, big time!
Ladies keep your senses & try not to fall into the "baby you're so fine, baby I've never met anyone like you, baby I wanna be your man, baby I love you" trap.
I've seen too many of my friends fall prey to these wanna-be gigolos. Always follow your 1st mind & never, ever 2nd guess yourself. If he sounds & acts too good to be true, he probably is!
In the meantime, I'm gonna keep being a hard-ass & keep these fools at a distance.
Y'all know Mo don't take no mess!
lol...amen to that...
ReplyDeleteIs this a recent writing or something you migrated over from 360?
ReplyDeleteJust curious, because my older brother taught me to watch out for mysogynistic, disrespectful chubby chasers when I was 16... he put me on to the game hard, and that I was 20 years ago. Shame that the practice is still in full effect, but you got em told, mama...
... and I appreciate you for it!
I feel you on this... It does seems like that.. It also makes me sad that women do fall for it.. I am glad you posted this..
ReplyDeleteAmen, amen and err umm Amen!...Blessings!
ReplyDeleteRight on!
ReplyDeleteSay That!! You are so right Mo. They make me sick with that. Eff you playa!!
ReplyDelete^5 While I think some men are attracted to women of any size, I agree some men feel that a woman who is overweight is desperate, and her self esteem is so low, that she is an easy mark. It is horrible when women do fall trap into this nonsense.
ReplyDeleteThis is good advice for ANY size woman! ^5
ReplyDeletevery true. sistah. *snaps*
ReplyDeleteHey! How did this pop back up to the top?...
ReplyDeleteWell anyway, I'm glad it did because this is something I've been noticing on these social sites. It's as though big has become the new black, like it's some sort of fad to have a collection of big girls on your page. You love who you love regardless but I don't think you need to walk around with a sign on your forehead that says "big girls only." To me that is what it reads when you see brothers with NOTHING but plus size girls on their page and all their group affiliations are BBW sites or hook up zones. And I'm not mad at you if you feel the need to belong to such a group or are on BBW dating sites. I just hope the women know that some of those chubby chasers are users and are underground big girl lovers and won't proudly show their woman off in public, but rather keep his new "fetish" under wraps. JMHObservation!
sistahs always have to be careful and yes, we do have some FOOOLs out here.
ReplyDeleteCo-signing on your blog entirely, however there are some out there who act & play the part of the easy & desperate big woman giving the rest of us a bad rap and thus some men assume that we're all like that. Not to mention, tv & movies stereotype us as such as well. The large unattractive best friend who's just hard up for love because she never gets picked due to her size so she has to play the funny but lacking in love sidekick who's willing to do anything and everything to win the guy.
ReplyDeleteDoes this mean I have to start liking skinny girls? I love thick sistas and always will. There are gullible skinny folks too. Paris Hilton comes to mind.
ReplyDeleteLawd I hope not, that would suck (and not in the good way LOL)
ReplyDeletei think the key for big sistahs is to match his words with his actions. if he is ghost like and only calls at certain times, never takes her out, only wants to COME OVEr, etc, he may be hiding another relationship and she might be his FILL IN.
ReplyDeleteNo bout-a-doubt it, there are skinny girls who are gullible. It just seems nowadays this thick girl obsession is somewhat warped by the objects and the objectifiers....
ReplyDeleteIt took them all these years to learn what I knew while I was in diapers.Too bad they're going about it the wrong way.
ReplyDeletewell i am not a chubby chaser i love my full-figured girlfriend she is very beautiful in my eye i was raised by a full figured woman bout all of my family member is BBW but my skinny sister like brown said she is anorexic but i love her to
ReplyDeletegood to hear of it.
ReplyDeleteNot at all. Just something I've observed since I've been a part of online communities.
ReplyDeleteYou said it all right there!
ReplyDeleteGood cuz you got some hugs coming when we meet.
ReplyDeleteSay that again!!! I was so going to say something like what you said!!!
ReplyDeleteBut you know that honestly goes for any woman. My motto is SHOW AND PROVE. Talk is cheap, if actions don't match what is said, FIRED!!!!
DAMN.... I wish he was my brother. There really is a method to it? It took me until I was 30 to figure out that it was a game that men played and now I know better.
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