Wednesday, November 12, 2008

Are You My Sister? Siblings Unknown....

I'm the eldest of my mother's 3 daughters.  We all have different fathers and the younger two were born out of wedlock.  {When we were younger, I was very hateful at times (hush) and would tease my middle sister about her illegitimate status.}

My mother once told me that my daddy suspected he had an older daughter from a relationship prior to marrying my mother.  If I remember correctly, my daddy was never able to confirm or deny fathering this child before he died.  I was too young to really care when my mother 1st told me about it. 

Every now & then I can't help but wonder if I have an older sister out there somewhere. 

All my life I thought my last name was very usual & relatives would be easy to find.  Not so, but thanks to the world wide web, I've learned my surname is not so unusual at all.

I've posted a few messages on a few family websites with the hopes "my sister", her mother or even some other relative would see our father's name & reach out.  Wishful thinking, huh?

 

13 comments:

  1. I hope you find the answer that you're looking for and that that empty place in your heart is filled.

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  2. I say all the time that there are five of us... that we know of... I'm sure there are others. I hope you get closure to this....

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  3. My man is doing the exact same thing...

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  4. You never know. Q found his son on Myspace. Good luck!

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  5. No, Its not anything is possible. My dad tells me, I have a older brother. I would love to try and find him.

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  6. Good luck with that Mo!

    My father says I have other siblings. But he's a known liar and exaggerator. I've considered the source and kept it moving. I'm only claiming my one sister that I'm 100% positive came from my mother's womb.

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  7. I think that is really cool! Would you mind sharing the websites? I know of at 2 my father had, but he was a "playa" so, you never know. LOL
    I pray you find the answer that you seek. *hugs*

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  8. It's not funny, but I can only imagine the look on your face when you typed this & can't help but laugh!

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  9. Mo, girl you have NO idea how funny this man is! I can count the times on two hands representing the amount of time spent with my mother's sperm donor. So you can probably understand how disengenious any of his promises and claims towards me have been over my 32 years. I can't take a word that comes from his mouth as gospel.

    Recently, Billy Ray suggested that I call him and check up on him! WTHeck for? He needs to be trying to check on me and get to know his grandsons......

    Sorry I'm having a therapeutic moment on your page. I may have to blog this subject one day.

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  10. Mo, I have a brother and a sister, sometimes I want to look them up and sometimes I want to leave sleeping dogs lie. I wouldn't know where to begin looking and all the people that could help me find out have passed on. When I was 18 my father was a patient in a hospital I interned in, I called my grandma to confirm that the records I saw was my dad, but I couldn't bring myself to go upstairs. Even when my mom passed, I wished it was him because he was never there. I wonder if I have an entire family out there. I know I am the middle child, but I am the only child my mother had. He probably has more than I know out there.

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