None - I'm a virgin.
1 and only 1.
2 - 5
6 - 10
11 - 20
21 - 25
26+
Hell, I lost count a long time ago.
Boyfriend 2.0 has a major problem when talk of my past relationships surface. Keep in mind he's 35 years old and has had no more than 6 serious girlfriends in his lifetime. Not that there's anything wrong with that, but hell, I had more boyfriends than that before I graduated high school.
Case in point - my 2 BFFs were at my house a few weeks ago and we started talking about all the shenanigans we used to partake in back in the day and when they started in on me & a few names of exes came up, Boyfriend 2.0 left the room.
Later on, I asked why he left and he said he had no interest in hearing about me & exes. OK, fine. He said, "No man wants to know about or think of all the men his woman has been with." *eyeroll* I politely told him I'm obviously not a virgin, nor am I saint. I'm a woman who has a past. A past that I'm not ashamed of. Granted, I regret quite a few things, but it all contributed to the woman I am today, and for that, I have no shame. He didn't want to continue the conversation & asked that I drop it. OK, whatever.
This got me to thinking, does he now view me as some kind of whore because of my past? Did he have me on some kind of pedestal & now I'm a fallen angel?
Whatever it is, it's not that bad because he's still here, right? Right!
Now that my lil rant is over, feel free to comment & answer the poll question.
I'm a virgin.
ReplyDelete*ajdusting Halo*
Sex? What's that???
ReplyDeleteBoth of y'all need to quit it! LOL
ReplyDeleteSeriously, I've been a virgin for 6 months.
ReplyDeleteMy daughter is the product of immaculate conception.
ReplyDelete*snatches halo from drphilly*
I think to some people it's a mental thing. I mean sometimes I don't mind hearing about what my wife did in the past but if it becomes an obsession yeah I'd be like it has to stop. But I'm the same way I don't go running around in front of her and pointing out all the shit I did waaay back when. Besides with me it wasn't about quantity it was about quality and man did I have a whooole lot of quality
ReplyDeleteI see what you are saying. It's not like I bring it up daily or I'm throwing it in his face. He just happened to be outnumbered during this particular conversation. I have no secrets about this kinda thing, because you never know who knows or who is kin to who.
ReplyDelete*Hands Sista a halo*
ReplyDeleteI always keep an extra with me.
You're just asking the ladies. Right Mo? *hiding from Dee*
ReplyDeleteI was a virgin when I met & married Mr. Dustt.
ReplyDeleteOk, so I wasn't. But I had been celibate for a year, so I was re-virginated by that time, and the sex-o-meter kicked back to zero. *innocent grin*
girl please...I'm sure its not over 26, but it could be. Hell, who really keeps track?
This kind of shit is part and parcel of why I don't even bother trying to date anybody anymore. I got hit with the scarlet letter a LONG time ago.
ReplyDeletemoving out of the way from the lightning as I look at all those who claim they are virgins
ReplyDelete*pulling out the Chicago white pages*
ReplyDeleteAlright, given the fact that I've have many many many many many men in my day...
ok,, let me quit lying..
Me and my history of 2 men was something that I think bothered me for a minute, because I felt like I hadnt played the field enough like other people... But its an ok number...
But Boyfriend 2.0 shouldnt be offended by it, because he's with you now and you're with him... And the past is strictly that... THE PAST... Probably just a mild case of insecurity.. but he'll get over it.. Just dont be talkin bout how big the dicks were in front of him... that may cause problems.. lol
I think a lot of people would be surprised by my number, some people have this strange misconception that I'm sort of uber-freaky nymphomaniac(have no idea where that comes from). But in your situation I don't think he looks at you any differently, he just didn't want to hear about all that shit(which is understandable lol).
ReplyDeleteOk, I seriously AM a virgin, but almost wasn't. I've really only had 1 serious relationship in my life...yeah, I'm "late bloomer"
ReplyDeleteLook to be honest while everybody should have the singular experience of deflowering a virgin, whether they be male or female after you have that under your belt I say no more. To hell with that get somebody who kinda has an idea of what they like and what they can do. Virgins suck, you can watch it in a porno all day but sooner or later your ass gotta put in some work to find out exactly what kind of public or private porn star you can be.
ReplyDeleteMy number is low only because I'm extremely picky. Were there oppurtunities to do a lot more dumb shit yeah, but then again this is the day and age of aids so in my mind since I didn't have stock in lifestyle, trojan or class acts if I didn't think you were my type I could pass until I found someone who was
Don't feel bad, I have a former virgin myself(meaning I was her first, I know that everyone is a former virgin so shut it before the comments come lollol) so waiting can bring great rewards lol
ReplyDeleteI'm a former virgin myself.
ReplyDeletearent we all .. you damn fool.. lol
ReplyDeleteYou still are compared to some folks.
ReplyDeleteWell I think I have a low number, but that is reeeealllly subjective, b/c what's low to some is borderline slut to others.
ReplyDeleteBut what should it matter anyway! Like Chris Rock said, you ain't planting no flag nowhere..just be glad ya'll fuckin now!!
please, everyone has a past...why trip about it. what matters is the committment you have with your partner. we should all be mature enough to share or talk about it. but you are right some men just don't want to think about a bunch of dudes (even in the past sense) having been with you. some men just can't get past it.
ReplyDeleteYou may have higher numbers but I probably did things that would make even you blush so it really is subjective.
ReplyDeleteI mean yeah if you've had more lovers but basically only had like 3 position sex, no oral, always in a bed. Yeah somebody else my not out lover you but I'll be dayumed if they ain out freak you
Ok, I wasn't there....
ReplyDeleteBut, to me that sounded like girlfiriends talk and I can kind of understand why he left the room. I don't think he was saying he has a problem with it...just that he doesn't necesarrily want to sit and listen to the details.
But again...I wasn't there...
I don't think I would want to sit around my man and his male friends and they start saying..Yeah, man, remember Belinda?!! Remember when you had her "insert details here." Everybody is different.
agreeing with the whole not keeping count thing...I wouldn't DARE try and count... LOL
ReplyDeleteand no... I wouldnt think it was a problem... because he is still hanging out with you.
I am not a virgin. The end.
ReplyDeleteI couldn't have said it better myself!
ReplyDeleteThat's just it, we never went into any of the sordid details. The only thing they mentioned was a name & he got ghost, which was fine, because he wasn't invited to the conversation to begin with. My friends both have sense enough not to give the details in his presence.
ReplyDeleteOk, that's interesting...
ReplyDelete*mmmmmmmmmmmmmmuah*
ReplyDeleteSimply put: If I had a man, I wouldn't want to hear his past "GIRTH LOG" and I wouldn't be trying to divulge my "PEARL CHRONICLES" for him either. In reality, what matters is that we know each other NOW (discuss sexual health, monogamy on BOTH parts, etc.).
ReplyDeleteBeing honest here, I probably would've left as well. If my man and his boys were sitting around talking and somehow his GIRTH LOG became part of the discussion, that would probably make me uncomfortable and I'd simply excuse myself (that's just me). Now if my man BLATANTLY shared DETAILS about his past escapades all nilly willy with his boys in my presence, I would add IRRITATED and PISSED to my list of verbs as well because to me that would be disrespectful. However in your case, it sounds like he simply left before he heard something he didn't want to hear.
I think everyone's different in what they can and cannot handle in situations like this. To me it just sounds like boyfriend 2.0 excused himself before anything was said that he couldn't handle. Also, I don't think he sees you as a whore now sista girl.... I just think that he didn't want to have an IMAGE IMPRINT of you sexing anyone else (no matter HOW much your past makes you the woman you are now).