Beauty is in the eye of the beholder & the eyes are the windows to the soul. Webster's defines beauty as: Click here I've noticed a lot of women {and even some men} are under the false assumption that lighter skin, hair weaves, colored-contacts lenses, false eyelashes, excessive make-up, designer clothing/accessories & bling-bling defines beauty. How can it be when you wouldn't be caught dead without your "face" on, let alone empty the garbage? While there is nothing wrong with the aforementioned enhancements, but if that's how you define/see beauty, {IMHO} you are wrong. There is vanity in us all, plain & simple. If there wasn't, the beauty salons, make-up manufacturers, plastic & weight loss surgeons, tanning salons, etc., wouldn't be the successful entities they are today. Now, before you think I'm just hating & blasting on those who utilize the above, I'm not. Keep in mind, I used wear {clear} contact lenses, {Lasik is the bomb and pure vanity}. I also use make-up on occasion & sport designer clothing/handbags. However, that's not how I define beauty & certainly don't think other women are envious of me because of these things. In this day & age, anyone who so desires, can enhance their outer appearance. If you happen to have a lil more loot and/or better group health benefits than the Average Joe, you can become whomever in the sam hell you choose to be. Be it lenses by Bausch & Lomb, Lasik by Crown Optical (they are fantastic!), make-up by M.A.C, lashes from KimSoo (local beauty supply house) jeans by Baby Phat or a lil nip/tuck by Dr. Soyouwannabeslim or Dr. Nowyoureallyfine. The bottom line is - if you think a person of substance (notice the term "substance") would be jealous/envious of you because of said temporary enhancements, you're sadly mistaken. Remember the old adage - Beauty may only be skin deep, but ugly is to the bone! As always, feel free to comment.
Let me preface this by saying, I think my Mama did her homework when she named me. My name means counselor or advisor. When I really care about someone, especially my blood, it's hard for me to keep my mouth shut when I see them doing things that are detrimental to their well-being. It pisses me off even more when the problem stems from the company they keep. Muda & Papa believed in "birds of a feather", but I don't. They also taught us that "the company you keep will determine the trouble you meet". This I do believe, wholeheartedly. In the past couple years or so, I have learned to just listen (and this is hard as hell for me) & keep my mouth shut, unless asked. If, by chance, they do ask, they're usually sorry they did. I know this to be true because I usually hear, "I hate I even asked you!" after I've given my nickel's worth. These people have known me all of my life (like my uncle) or all of their life (like my younger sister) & they know I'm not going sugar-coat it to spare their feelings or to make them feel better, so if they really didn't want my input, why do they bother to ask?? Not to be a braggart, but 9 times out of 10, I was usually right & that pisses them off even more. Not so much that they were wrong, but the fact I was right. My uncle will be the 1st to call me judgemental & self-righteous, and maybe at times I am. (That's only because he fucks up more in a week than I have in 35 years.) So his "attacks" towards me are personal, but I really don't give a shit & love him anyway. However, I tend to believe I learn from my mistakes so that I'm not a repeat offender. Don't get me wrong, I fuck up like everybody else. I've gotten myself into some troublesome situations, but I do manage to accept responsibility when I know it's my fault. "Open mouth & insert foot" is not a good look for me. Are you the same as or similar to me in these situations? If so, how do you manage to "not speak now" & forever hold the peace?
