Child Support Drama

One of my cybersistas is going thru it right now, so I figured I'd dig up my 360 post on the subject...just for S&Gs (Red, that's shits & giggles).

Blog I - December 2006

Since I think my little shopping sprees may have gotten outta hand, I figured I needed log on & pay some bills & possibly juggle some funds.

I log onto my banking website & pull up my checking account & see the following:

Electronic Deposit Fam Supp Pay Cen

$15.59

10 years ago, I would've been fussing & cussing about that amount of alleged child support. Hell, my boy eats more than $15.00 worth of groceries a day.

Keep in mind I can't even remember the last time I received a child support payment, oh wait it was about 2 years ago & was for $23 & some change. However, I gave up that battle over a decade ago. As you can see it wasn't worth my time, energy or blood pressure. I figured I got myself into the situation, so I just need to do what's necessary to work it out...and with the help of Mama, Muda & Papa & by the Grace of God, I did.

To all of the dead beat moms & dads, Happy Freakin' Holidays!

Blog II - January 2007

The Deadbeat got a Job..... and health insurance!!!

 

Today, I received a letter from the Missouri Dept. of Social Service-Family Support Division. I haven't heard anything from the department since I got that whopping payment of $15.59!  I gave up the money battle with the donor over a decade ago. Sometimes, you just have to know when to say fuck it & move on.

 

Mind you, I barely communicate with the donor because I refuse to put up with anybody's bullshit, especially his.

 

Way back when, he was ordered to pay support & also ordered to maintain health insurance. Sometimes he did, sometimes he didn't. I didn't trip, I made sure my child stayed covered under my health plan.

 

The mail I received today, indicated that "Child is enrolled in NCP (non-custodial parent) medical insurance". Well I'll be damned!! He not only found gainful employment & didn't bother to tell me, he found employment with benefits! I just might take the chance & drop the boy from my plan. If I do, it will save me almost $200 a month in premium! Wow....

Oh, by the way, the boy was only covered for a few months & I had to pick him back up and am still covering him to this day.

Mama's Baby, Papa's Maybe

Remember the old adage "Mama's baby, Papa's maybe...."?

I blog-hop when I want to read what's on the minds of others. In my travels, I came across an open-forum type blog about controversial opinions & found the comment of one person to be quite interesting.

This quote is verbatim. "I think single women who make the decision to have a child should be obligated to support it alone. If he's not obligated to YOU, he shouldn't be obligated to YOUR (the woman's) decision to have the child. " Author's identity withheld.

I don't know the author, and as a single mother, I certainly have an opinion on the topic & want to hear from you, especially the men.