My 75 Year Old Uncle is Getting Married!

You heard me, my uncle is 75 years old (76 in a few weeks) and this son of gun is getting or has gotten married!  *eyeroll*

Usually, I get excited about black love.  Hell, I've even shedded tears for folks getting engaged/married who I've never met (Will & Tia, STO & Feyonce, JT's Unc & new bride, etc.), but this time, I'm just out done.

Mind you, my dear, geriatric uncle has been married 4 times (2nd & 3rd wife are the same woman) & he has a few children who are older than is lovely bride *sarcasm & eyeroll*.  The last time I visited with him (a few years ago) he was talking this foolishness and I tried to talk him out of it. 

I have no doubt my uncle has about 10+ years left on him & this wench is just waiting to cash in.  Now he's not wealthy by any means, but he did OK for himself & all of his children are grown. 

He claims he got shafted after the 4th divorce which I why I questioned his motives in doing this yet again and at his age.  His answer was simply, "I don't want to be alone."  *insert Silkee's world renown record scratch here*  WTF?!?!  Y'all have been shacking for damn near a decade and now you don't want to be alone.  Come on Unc.....

I'm all for the institution of marriage but this is sheer & complete madness. 

Oh, did I mention my other uncle told me that most of the men in our family have "had" this chic at one point or another.  She was my cousin's girlfriend 1st & after being with him for a little while, she test drove the crew and somehow ended up with his father - my mama's big brother.

I suppose congratulations are in order.....*Ugh*

Widowed? How Long Do You Wait to Remarry?

How long should a person wait after burying a spouse to remarry?

As soon as the mood strikes!

 

 1

30 - 90 days

 

 0

3 - 6 months

 

 0

6 - 9 months

 

 0

9 -12 months

 

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One year at minimum.

 

 5

This topic was on our local radio show. 

When my daddy died, my mother never remarried.  Albeit, she did have a long-term boyfriend, common-law husband or whatever you wish to call him.  He was a true father figure to me & my sister. 

I never asked her why she didn't marry Bill. I guess in my heart I didn't want her to.  In my young mind that meant she would totally forget about my daddy.  Now that I'm grown & have been thru some things of my own, I know that's not the case.

Check the poll & feel free to post a reply as well.

Her Name? His Name? You Tell Me.

Note: I changed the subject with the hopes of getting a few more testosteronic (ha!) replies.

When I was a lil bright-eyed child, I dreamed of the Cinderella wedding like most girls do, including the big, white gown & releasing of the doves. There's was one major reason I couldn't wait to get married....to change my name!

I hated my last name for a really long time.  I wanted the last name of several of my relatives - Jones, Smith, Brown (Meet The Browns ain't got shit on my Browns & one of my connects can tell ya)....sorry....back to my topic.  Pretty common names right?  I guess that's why I wanted one.  It wasn't until one of my distant cousins became a star athlete in high school, that I started to appreciate my name...my daddy's name...a name widely recognized in our area.

The late Ike "Fine Yo' Ass" Turner put the icing on the cake for me with "That name got my daddy's blood on it."  I'll repeat that in heartbeat.

Again, back to my topic - after so many years of wanting a last name other than the one on my birth certificate & later learning to appreciate my name, I decided if some lucky brother ever made an honest woman out of me, I wouldn't change my name.  No children would come from this union, so what's the point?  I'd be inclined to reconsider if that was the case.

I've decided my tombstone would read the same as my birth certificate.  I would go out the same way I came in - not as Joe Smith's wife, but as Frankie B's baby girl.  I could replace a husband umpteen times, but I could never replace my daddy.

The two (2) times I was seriously in love & contemplating marriage, I toyed around with the whole hyphenation thing, but my last name & theirs simply did not flow.

This brings me to my question:

Ladies - did you/would you keep/drop your birth name or hyphenate?

Gents - did your wife drop/keep her birth name?  How did the decision effect you?  Feel free to answer based upon wifey material.