Friday, December 21, 2007

Widowed? How Long Do You Wait to Remarry?

How long should a person wait after burying a spouse to remarry?

As soon as the mood strikes!
 
 1

30 - 90 days
 
 0

3 - 6 months
 
 0

6 - 9 months
 
 0

9 -12 months
 
 0

One year at minimum.
 
 5

This topic was on our local radio show. 

When my daddy died, my mother never remarried.  Albeit, she did have a long-term boyfriend, common-law husband or whatever you wish to call him.  He was a true father figure to me & my sister. 

I never asked her why she didn't marry Bill. I guess in my heart I didn't want her to.  In my young mind that meant she would totally forget about my daddy.  Now that I'm grown & have been thru some things of my own, I know that's not the case.

Check the poll & feel free to post a reply as well.

5 comments:

  1. I think I would wait at least a year to let things calm down so I would know I'm not just rebounding after the terrible pain of losing a loved one.

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  2. I don't know, I think I'd wait a year, but then again...if it's real, then a yr might end up being too long...Life proves to us everyday that nothing is guaranteed or promised except birth and death.

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  3. I would probably give it a year at the earliest.

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  4. Wow, that's hard to say. I am sure it would be well over a year for sure. Children make it harder to move on because I believe you have to be sensitive to their feelings as well. Personally, even though my mom is 72 and her and my dad were married 44 years and I know she is lonely and would like another companion, every time she even mentions some old geezer she's seen around I look at her cross-eyed...lol!!

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  5. I think it truly depends on each person, but I voted 1 year. Give a person time to mourn, heal, and then go from there.

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