I just had a slight falling out with Boyfriend 2.0 about NYE. At first we were planning to go out & celebrate, but then that changed - several times. He can't make a damn decision & when I make one he doesn't like, he's unhappy. {Men!}
For those who know anything about me, know I live in the hood & the streets of said hood are no place to be once the clock strikes 12. For folks to be having such a hard time paying bills & such, they sure can come across firepower. I'm talking bombs over Baghdad firepower! {SMH @ my people}
Anytime I'm home on NYE, I'm in my basement or the floor of my 2nd floor....and even then, I'm not all that at ease.
I would much rather go out & then crash at a nice hotel, but the male siblings of Boyfriend 2.0 also want to celebrate, but the Negroes are broke. I'm guessing the bills are paid, but they are kinda light on the fun money. They want to come to come to my house with their girlfriend & wife (who is my 1st cousin). Their sister & her husband would also join us. No problem right? Wrong! Of the 8 people who would be there, 5 of them smoke & I mean smoke like chimneys in the winter time, including Boyfriend 2.0.
Y'all know I don't allow smoking in my house or car & prefer to avoid places where smoking is allowed freely. When smokers visit my house, they have to step outside.
Now this is where it gets tricky. When the bad weather set in, I reluntanctly allowed Boyfriend 2.0 to go to the basement for his nicotine fix. {I don't have a garage & I surely can't have him sick & not able work!}
Now I know when/if the smokers come to my house & it's too cold to be outside, they will ask if the can go downstairs. One or two of them? Maybe. I might've been willing to bend the rules for the evening, but 5 of them?!?! Hell naw! Not to mention when the one brother & his wife/my cousin visit (they live 15 minutes away) they'll think they can automatically smoke indoors.
Am I being unreasonable? I don't think so.
Why can't any of them host the gathering at their respective residences. UGGGGHHH...
ReplyDeleteI have an invitation to be somewhere, but I'm not trying to be the only single in the middle of a bunch of couples slobbering all over each other at midnight soooo... I'll be home in bed, preferably sleeping, or relaxing with a book NYE.
I dont think you are being unreasonable at all. No smokers are around me, pretty much ever... cause I don't allow it in my house or in my car. I think it is nice that you allow 2.0 to smoke in the basement, but you better let him know that him and his people are going to be freezing out on the porch if they need to smoke.
ReplyDeleteStand your ground... smoke takes forever to come out of stuff. :)
No i don't think so at all and it's courtesy for them to abide by said rules when they are in someone's house. You don't want to subject yourself to second hand smoke and that is your preference and you have a right to at least that since it's your home.
ReplyDeleteThey live in one bedroom apartments. I've been there & I'd surely go nutso cramped up in there with 7 other people.
ReplyDeleteNo, she's NOT being unreasonable at all... I'm a light smoker and I RARELY smoke in my own house... I'll be damn if I got a whole crowd of em lighting up at once in that camp... no sirr... carry ya asses outside or better yet stay at home!
ReplyDeleteHmm well....it's not your fault they have no space. You don't smoke you don't want it in your house then don't bend the rules. Nobody smokes in mine either. But then again I have few friends who do smoke.
ReplyDeleteI don't think you're being unreasonable at all. I say stand your ground.
ReplyDeleteoooh weeee .i 'm a non smoker too. i feel your pain there.
ReplyDelete5 smokers is a lot. whoa.
you are not being unresonable they are. it's ur crib. it's your call.
I understand exactly what you are saying. I am a smoker but I ont smoke in my house. Most of my friends & family smoke & they are always bitching about coming to my house and having to smoke outside...they always use the excuse you smoke.....but I DONT smoke in my house.....I have a 10 year old daughter and she doesnt need to be inhaling that shit..PERIOD!
ReplyDeleteI don't think that you are being unreasonable at all..It's your house!
You pay the cost, so...
ReplyDeleteNope...it's your abode.
ReplyDeleteNot unreasonable......it's your place and you call the shots!!
ReplyDeleteI agree with everyone else. It's your place and you make the rules. I would suggest they come to your place (all smoking outside regardless of the weather) or you all go out somewhere as a group. Or even the hotel thing..at least they are not smoking in your house. Have fun whatever you do!
ReplyDeleteShit, it's your house, right? ENOUGH SAID!
ReplyDeleteYa house, ya rules - period. As a non-smolker, I HATE the smell of smoke - it doesn't come out, even with febreeze...
ReplyDeleteTell them they are welcome - if they take the smokin outside (2.0 included) cold or not! *hmph*
first off... I love the title... Boyfriend 2.0... cute!
ReplyDeletemy late husband smoked... but I didnt allow it in the house... and he paid the bills! LOL
as it stands now... my little one has asthma... AINT no smoking. in my house, in my car, on my porch, in my yard. PERIOD.
Hell naw you aint being unreasonable. I do not allow smoking in my house either and send folks to the balcony or the stoop to do it, and if its cold they can go do it in their car. But you will not be smoking in my crib.
ReplyDeleteEverytime I go to a friend of mine house we smoke outside, her mother is allergic and we respect momma. No ifs, no ands, or butts(pardon the pun)We've been standing outside in the cold and nobody has a problem with it. If they can stand outside their office building and smoke they can stand outside your house.
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