MisAdventures in On-Line Dating - Chapter 1

Have you ever been on a blind date and the person you were meeting had a "physical flaw/imperfection" (not a disability) that you weren't aware of, they never bothered to mention and/or couldn't be determined from a photograph? He said he kinda favored Martin Lawrence but actually looked more like Jerome aka Romey Rome? She said she looked like Janet Jackson but was closer to Freddie Jackson? (Think Friday….I had to toss that in there so the fellas won’t think I’m just picking on them.)

Allow me to share my horror story with you:

I met this guy on-line and we had been talking on the phone for several weeks. Due to working schedules and family obligations it was hard for us to make a connection.  We exchanged several pics.  All of his were straight-faced.  Y'all already know me & all these damn teeth.

When we finally did meet, the brotha's two (2) front teeth were missing! Now I'm a sucker for a man with a nice smile (ones like Mike & STO), so needless to say, I was speechless.

He never really looked at me when talking and he was very good at hiding his smile using his hands as he talked. This lead me believe that his teeth have been missing for quite some time.

I enjoyed the meal, which he graciously paid for, but was so taken aback by the dental issue, I avoided his calls.  I wanted to say something about my shock but I just couldn't find the words.

Let me stop lying. What I really wanted to say is, "How dare you bring your snaggle-toothed ass to meet someone on a date & try to keep your dental mishap a secret?! How long did you think you could hide the fact that your front teeth were missing until someone eventually caught on?! I've got 4-eyes* (2 of which I paid damn good money for)."  {before Lasik}

At any rate, I try not to be judgmental (I'm working on this one), because I'm a big girl & I know what it's like to be judged by appearances.  However, I don’t appreciate being deceived either.  I have no problem sharing full body shots or  my jeans size when asked (one guy even told me I was too small for him...he preferred his women 300+ lbs).  We like what we like & no sense in wasting time.

Have you or someone you met withheld vital information such as this?  I know I can't be the only one.

I ain't saying Yous a Gold Digger, but.....

http://www.wealthymen.com/
This has to be the biggest crock of bull I've seen in a while! LOL

My Shot at Interracial Dating

Magic/Mister/Doctor Mike has a blog on a similar subject.  His reply to my reply is what prompted me to share my experience.

About 5 years ago I met a guy at conference.  I could feel him watching me for most of the presentation.  It didn't creep me out or anything, but I did wonder what the hell he found so fascinating about me. 

During the break he came over & introduced himself. His name was Kim....yeah you heard me, Kim.  The man was Asian & about 4 inches shorter than me.  I spoke back & we engaged in lite conversation....or at least he did....we had a lil language barrier problem.  I had to ask him to repeat damn near everything he said. 

After the conference he gave me his card & had written his cell # on he back, and then asked for mine.  I thought, "What the hell...give it to him."  He called me a few days later.  Honestly, I had no intentions on calling him. 

After asking him to repeat himself several times, he asked if I had Yahoo.  I told him I did & we exchanged IM IDs.  Chatting was sooooooo much better.  He invited me dinner & told me to pick the place.  I did.

The day I was supposed to meet him, I called my BFF and gave her his info, told her where I was going & was on my way.

I got to the restaurant about 30 minutes early & he was sitting outside waiting for me. He held open the door & a table was waiting for us.

I looked over the menu & mentioned there were too many good choices.  He replied, "Whatever you want is fine." (once I understood him of course).  I ordered a very pricey surf & turf meal & a few cocktails.  It was dee-lish!  The dessert tray came around & I was gonna get the Bananas Foster when he suggested I should me try something new, so I did.  I ordered key lime pie.  It was OK.  Should've gotten my damn BF.

As we tried to talk over dinner I kept asking him to repeat himself.  It was very annoying for me, but it didn't seem to bother him.

It was then that I knew I'd never see this man again. 

We finished dinner, he paid the bill & we left.

He walked me to my car, tried to kiss me but I turned my cheek.  Did I mention we were eye to eye, but he was on the curb & I was on the surface.  (Me & my damn height hangups....)  I thanked him for the lovely dinner, got in my car & left. 

He called me several times after that evening, but I never answered.  I just couldn't bear to hurt his feelings.  I also deleted the IM ID I'd given him.

He finally gave up.

I hope he found what he was looking for.  I honestly think he might've been trying to fulfill some BBBW fantasy or curiosity with me.  Don't ask me why I think that...I just do.

The End.

Now, I know y'all got questions, so fire away.