1. Ladies/Gents - would you consider donating your sperm/eggs to a fertility/reproductive clinic whose use will be unbeknownst to you?
2. Ladies/Gents - would you consider donating the same to a relative or friends, knowing you will be aware of the outcome?
3. Ladies - would you consider becoming a surrogate (artificial implantation or in layman's term, renting your womb)?
Let's talk about it.
No to 1 - because I couldn't stand the thought that part of me is out there in the world.
ReplyDeleteNo to 2 - because that would just weird me out having my own dna staring back me and not having involvement with it.
And maybe to 3 - if I were healthy enough to carry someone's child (not biologically my own) to term I might just do it.
No, Can't..
ReplyDeleteLet me first start off by saying I am seriously petrified at the thought of child birth... so being a surrogate is seriously out of the question... If a family member were trying to have a baby and she was not able to produce adequate eggs, sure I would... But that's about as far as I would go... No fertility banks... I think I would like to know who my potential off springs are...
ReplyDeletegood post.
Nope and Nope
ReplyDelete1. Yes...
ReplyDelete2. Yes...
3. Yes...
#'s 1 and 3 come with some fierce $$$ and at this stage of the game it's all about the DOUGH! (There are also other health risks to consider, but because I already know that I can't technically do any of the above, it's easy for me to not blink an eye and say I'd do it)
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I could not give my eggs to a stranger, I would forever need to know what was going on with that baby. Not for family either, cause I would feel obsessed with checking in on him/her. No to the womb cause it is just too dangerous. Plus I have kids and have no idea how to explain to a 4 year old that mommy is having a baby and then giving it to someone else.
No, no and no.
ReplyDelete1. I couldn't bear to have any children running around with my DNA and me not have a part in raising them.
2. I considered it at one time, but see above answer.
3. I'd considered this one at one time too but another pregnancy would put me on dialysis instantly.
No to all of the above...
ReplyDeleteNo, no, and no
ReplyDeleteI guess I should answer my own questions, huh?
ReplyDelete1. I don't think I would, but desperation (aka being homeless, strapped for cash, etc.) might make me weigh it carefully.
2. I think I could. As long as when the kid was old enough he/she was told the truth about how much he/she was wanted.
3. Same as #3.
I would say no. Like others mentioned previously, if it became a money issue, probably, but at this time I can't think of any reason I would do any of them.
ReplyDeleteEven after giving birth the first & last time (one in the same) I vowed to never do it again, but I think I could be an incubator for a loved one.
ReplyDeleteYes to #1 because there are so many people out here that can't have children & it would give me great pleasure in knowing that I helped to create a life for someone to love.
ReplyDeleteNo to #2 because that would be just weird. Period.
No to #3 because after carrying the baby to term & going through that long a** labor, & all the pain I went through to have the baby, I couldn't give the baby up. I'd be too attached to let go. Then the postpartum depression would get worst knowing I helped bring a child into this world & I can't have a part in their life besides nurturing them for 9 months & delievering them into the world. No, no, no. Can't do it.
1. I have considered it slightly. There are a lot of people who want children but can't have them. I would think of it as a donation of life. Also, it pays a GRIP. I have even researched the process. They only want "perfect eggs" though. Clean family medical history, etc. My family's medical history immediately negates me from consideration.
ReplyDelete2. Some how I don't think I could do this. I would probably think of it as "my child" and have emotional attachment.
3. I probably wouldn't do this either for the reason stated above. There is a connection when carrying a child that would cause me to act a fool when it was time to give the baby away. Like Phoebe in this Friends clip after she gave birth to her brother's surrogate babies. Immediately after their birth, she decided she wanted to keep them. That would be me.
Honestly, I don't think so but I don't know what my future holds and I've learned to never say never.
ReplyDelete1. Y'all can talk about me as badly as you like but yes, I'd do this if I were going to be properly compensated. (egg retrieval for donation purposes of any kind is a straight up MOTHERFUCKER)
ReplyDelete2. I would donate eggs to friends if I honestly believed they would make really good parents.
3. At one point I'd considered it... but now? I don't know... my age and certain medical issues might be kinda tricky...
1.No, because its the same as giving a kid up for adoption to me, and thats something I could never bring myself to do. There used to be advertisements in our school paper for egg donors. They were looking for Ivy League eggs. Yeah, ok... But they were paying up to $15,000 and there were some girls signing up for testing. They dont take the eggs all willy-nilly though and they definitely dont have a demand for Black eggs.
ReplyDelete2. No because I dont like any of my relatives enough to do this. Sounds weird, but I'm not at all close to anyone in my family outside of my dad.
3. No, but only because I HATED being pregnant. It was the worst!! from day one until they cut me open. I dont even want to do it again for my OWN kid.
No to them all because I couldn't live knowing I had a child out there..somewhere..who knows where
ReplyDeleteAnd even with a family member it would be too hard for me, knowing that child came from me...nope couldn't do it
Finally! Another woman who feels the way I do. I was beginning to think you didn't exist.
ReplyDeleteOh I tell people all the time, that shit is for the birds. All these women talking about how they loved it. Well, I didnt. For the last 3 months, I was in the doctor's office 3-4 times a week. I couldnt even work. I had to shoot myself up with insulin 4 times a day from week 13 on. I had heartburn from the time I peed on the stick (and yeah he came out with a head full of hair lol). No morning sickness, but I was just miserable and pregnant during the SUMMER. Blechhh
ReplyDeleteWow sis! That was a lot to endure. I didn't have any medical issues other than morning sickness for 90 days straight.
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I toyed with it for a min when I was younger, but not knowing what they would do would bother me. As for the surrogate aspect, I admire women who do that, but I do NOT want to be pregnant nor give birth!!! Especially now. Nooooooooooo
You developed gestational diabetes?
ReplyDeletenope i was diabetic beforehand
ReplyDelete1) Nope
ReplyDelete2) Nope
3) Not applicable
HELL NOOOOOOOOOOOOO...to all of them.
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