"Marks" of Passion

Remember the infamous "hickies" or as we called them in STL, "passion marks"?

1. When was the last time you gave or received one?
2. What's your take on them now?
3. Have you seen any adults marked up lately?
4. And lastly, what drove us to do such a thing?

A White Folks Wedding

Yesterday, I attended my 1st white folks wedding.  One of my best work friends got married & I was there to witness. 

The bride & groom are both 47 years old.  She was absolutely radiant.  He was looking pretty dapper himself.  Neither one has children. This is hubby #3 for her & wifey #2 for him.

It was a garden ceremony & despite the less than favorable temp (about 55 degrees) & my 3.5 inch heels sinking into the ground (it rained the night before), it was a lovely event. 

Once the booze started flowing, it was on!  I get a kick outta watching white folks getting their drink on then trying to dance....hilarious!

My faith in finding & marrying my one true love has once again been restored.  Ya'll know I tend to lose it every so often.

Congrats to Mr. & Mrs. Key!

PS When (notice how I've gone from if to when?) I do marry, I'll give you all plenty of notice to save your nickels & dimes for my destination wedding!  

Best & Worst Valentine's Day

Happy Balentime's Day Sexy People (V-Day haters too)! 

Tell me/us about your best & worst Valentine's Day and the gifts that came/didn't come with it.

My worst was probably any day that all my friends were boo'd up with someone they loved or just happened to be boning & I was alone. *whine*

My best was a late V-Day celebration that took place in Las Vegas.  I'll spare you the sordid details, but I will tell you after some mind-blowing sex & a few too many cocktails, we damn near ended up in one of the chapels on the strip!   Needless to say, that didn't happen, but ahhhhh, the memories.

I was His Mistress....

and then he died!

 

Catchy title, huh? I think it makes for an interesting discussion.

Hypothetically speaking, let's say you are/were a secret (or maybe not so secret) lover of a married person & this person dies. For the sake of this discussion, let's also say this person maintained a home elsewhere & at the time of passing, the two of you were not cohabitating aka shacking up.

As the outside lover, do you feel you have the right to attend and/or mourn at the wake/funeral/memorial/burial service? What if you had children with the deceased?

I would hope to not put myself in that situation, but stranger things have happened. If I was the secret lover, I would keep my distance. If I was truly in love with the man, I would avoid the funeral. I know I wouldn't be able to contain my emotions. As for any children, they unfortunately have to suffer for the choices we made. I would probably grieve with them at the burial site....way after the fact. I would try not to cross paths with the family...at all cost.

On the flip side, if you are the widow/widower, how do you think you'd react if a secret (or maybe not so secret) lover (and possible children) came to pay their respects to your dearly departed spouse?

As long as I didn't know who she was, I can't really say. She could slip in & out and no one is none the wiser. If I did know who she was, I would hope she wouldn't invade my family's space & grieving process. If she did, I couldn't guarantee her safety. If there were minor children involved & I knew of them I would ask for the strength to extend the olive branch, for the sake of the youngsters. If the children are older, I don't think I'd have a problem with their presence as long as they acted accordingly.

Before you say, "Well I would never....", keep in mind people lie all the time & sometimes innocents get caught up unintentionally.

Even if you haven't been in such a situation, I still want to hear from you.