Baby Mama & Baby Daddy - 2 terms I have come to despise. I've been {I say been because my baby is registered to vote} in those shoes, so I think I have a right.
Sometimes I wonder how my "baby daddy" refers to me. Since I'm 1st of 3...maybe even 4, it might be his "1st baby mama", my given/nick name, or "that bitch". I'd place money on the latter of the 3.
I know 2 of the other mamas and in one another's presence, we were cordial & always had been. I ain't never had a need or desire to fight over a man, especially one who is delinquent with the support payments.
2nd baby mama - she thought she was really doing something when she started dating him. I even tried to warn her. Well, after several years of bullshit, 2 kids and a gazillion ass whippings she bounced - taking their daughter but leaving their son. I wonder if she ever remembered that warning I gave her. That bastard hit me once & that was all she wrote. That was the last altercation we had. All in all, she was an OK chic and I trusted her with my son. Of them all, he liked her best.
3rd baby mama - the one in question, I heard about, but never met. My sister met her once & told me ole girl had slash marks on her wrists. She has a daughter & alleged son with the ever popular donor.
4th baby mama - they are supposed to get married & she has preschooler, who happens to look just like his eldest brother (my son) did at that age & is currently prego (daddy will be 40 in Nov. *eyeroll*)
Not including the one yet to be born, baby daddy has 3 sons, 2 daughters, and possible. {Sound like a Spades game...*smh*}
I heard about some bouts with #2 & #3 (they were pregnant at the same time daughters born within a matter of weeks of each other).
When my son was younger, I did what I could to be cordial to these women because a lot of times my son was in their care. God forbid if they got outta pocket about mine. Heads would've rolled!
My son is now living in Jefferson City with my BFF, going to school & working, so I no longer have to deal with his bio or his women.
My question to you is: what's your relationship like with the other baby mama(s)/daddy(ies)?
WOW that is drama ! LOL
ReplyDeleteMy ex had a daughter that passed away 5 years before I met him. I have never met her mother, but she had remarried and had two sons before I even met him, so it was way in the past.
So I guess I am lucky in saying there are no other babies or babies mama's in my situation (although his current heffa will probably eventually get knocked up) . . .and I am thankful for that.
Now if you wanna talk drama, get me on ex mothers in law. I could go off for days. LOL
I am glad to say I don't have to deal with ANY of that...just another reason I avoided having kids.
ReplyDeleteWell, since Im not a full fledge mommy yet and my guy doesnt have any kids... in fact neither did my previous guy... lol I've never had to deal with that issue... So, for once I honestly dont have anything to say...lol
ReplyDeleteOh by the way,,, I had a box of those Strawberry whoppers last night... and they are kinda tasty... but i dont know about sniffing the box... lol
I ain't even mad at cha! That's the same reason my boy is an only child - on his mama's side! LOL
ReplyDeleteMy first son has an older brother (9 mos. and 1 day older) and when the boys were little, we made sure they knew each other, but then they moved to ATL and I haven't seen her since. The boys still keep in touch.
ReplyDeleteMy youngest is the youngest of 4 and a possible. The oldest brother isn't blood, but was raised by his stepdaddy and the next two sons are close to my son and when their mother has her bouts with drug use, they look to me for motherly advice and even for some period of time called me mama. The second ex wife doesn't even exist in their families eyes. She was evil to the boys and they still hate her to this day and I was the last babymomma.
After my son's father died, a woman came forward and claimed her daughter was also his, but we've never met.
We never had drama though. We figured the kids were going to be related no matter what, so get over it.
There is still more time and babies to made Ms Mo.... get to work... well, not right now... wait til you get home... lol
ReplyDeletemy baby sister [who is actually my baby cousin adopted by my mom] has about 7 sisters [her biological father who she knows is VERY fertile...and foolish] thanks to his seeding the entire Virginia coast. she also has another sister and 2 brothers [her biological mom, my cousin, is also quite fertile...and crazy].
ReplyDeleteI feel for the kids in that situation because their concept of family with siblings sprawled across the city and states is very hard for them to comprehend; and its kinda sad that they do not get to grow up with each other as other siblings do.
Not to mention, SOMEBODY is usually getting left behind...its just sad.
My father got a girl pregnant before my Mom but she got an abortion due to his mother (My grandmother) "making" her. I always wondered what it woulda been like had the other woman decide to keep that child. According to my Mother, all 3 of them went to the same church. BOTH of my grandmothers went to the same church for years and their kids were raised there. That's how my Mom and Dad knew each other. They've known each other since they were kids in church. Anyway, they weren't dating when the other girl got pregnant but they were cool. According to father, Mom was like his "Big Sisters". Moms' 2 years older than he is. Anyway, I came after all that and I guess his Mom thought she could make Mine get rid of ME. They must ain't know Mama is a stubborn ass.
ReplyDeleteBut I never had that problem....and I still don't because I have no children. I make sure I double (sometimes Tripple) up when it's time to do the nasty. Hell, if she has a diaphragm, I tell her to put THAT shit on, too.
well, fortunately...Never had an issue. My husband was married before, so she is the ex-wfie, and I never considered her a "baby mama". My step son is almost 18..and her and I get along pretty well. I was nervous, b/c prior to hubby, I never even dated anyone with kids...FOR the reason of not having to deal with any "baby mama drama", yanno? She welcomes me into her home...and we sit & chat, eat...while "the boys" go about their father son biz...and that's that...
ReplyDeleteBut I guess I'm one of the fortunate ones...because honey, I have heard some DOOZY's of stories...
My father was a rolling stone, and he has all kinds of kids cross the county. I met one when I was a shortie & she was quite close to my age (cheating bastid) but I wasn't 100% sure she was my father's because she didn't look one iota like me, or any of my father's kids. He had a son with this one chic and I would visit her during my visitation weekends with him (what a louse...couldn't even let me be one on one with him during OUR time...but I digress).. She never had anything malacious to say about my mom. In fact she and my mom were always pleasant with one another. I later learned at my college graduation that my father also had another son around my age living in Lousiana. He was affected by hurricane Katrina, and all of a sudden my father pops back up to tell me about it, as if I'm supposed to have some emotion affectedness about his son's situation. I'm like..dude I ain't never met this guy...you just told me about him in 1997!!!!
ReplyDeleteSo yeah, I'm just a little too thankful that I married my babys' daddy!!! LOL
That's the one thing that bothers me about #3s daughter - my son or the other brothers don't know her. To make matters worse, they are Jacksons (one of the most common names in the nation). The other sister isn't an issue. She adores her biggest brother (as she calls him).
ReplyDeleteIf any little swimmers come knocking on Miss Kitty's door, they will be greeted with the "Gone Out of Business" sign!
ReplyDelete*wiping my brow*
ReplyDeleteI'm SO thankful I don't have to deal with this crap. My children are the only children my ex has. (As far as I know.)
There are so many of my friends who are caught up with this mess, it's a shame. In fact, my best friend was so caught up in the baby mama drama, her hair started falling out.
Life is too short for that ish!
I have only 1 child and my ex-wife can't have anymore. Although I did have a "discussion" with her boyfriend last night when I dropped my son off. I think everything should be ok now.
ReplyDeleteMy sympathies go out to those dealing with these issues. I don't have children and I rarely date men with children. However on the few occasions that I have dated a man with a child or children, I really wasn't exposed to the baby-mama drama firsthand. However, I have good girlfriends who have and I have had to intervene in various altercations involving baby mamas / other baby mamas, etc. when ish got serious and to a physical level (which is stupid in my opinion but sometimes in worst case scenarios, necessary in self-defense). I believe that if you all are mature and truly finished with each other without any loose strings or occasional ex-sex going on, there should be some amicable understanding between everyone.
ReplyDeleteI can honestly say I've never had issue with the other mothers & they can certainly say the same about me. My son is about 4 years older than the 2nd child. Me & the bio had been way over & done with by then.
ReplyDeleteThis is why I prefer to date men who have no children or children over age 13. The drama, if any, has usually subsided by then.
Thankfully I have never had to deal with Baby Mama Drama, but I have been witness to more of it than I cared to with my brothers and friends.
ReplyDeleteI never had to deal with drama from my child's father's other baby mama. I had enough drama with HIM to last a lifetime, so I am glad I never knew the other woman. HE says she is now a stripper turned lesbian. But I don't trust anything he says. Only heaven knows what he says about me.
ReplyDeleteHello Ms. Mo... love your blogs!!
ReplyDeleteMy youngest is the youngest of 5 for his dad... and I have never met any other baby mamas... no need to... my kid doesnt spend time with any of them... not even his dad...
As for my late husband... he had a daughter when we got married... and she didnt like me... and would say ugly things to her daughter about me... and of course when she visited, I had to hear them... but now that my step daughter is all grown... she calls me her other mama... and she and I are closer than she is to her own mom (her mom is on crack) and now she is about to make me a step grandmother...lol