- The dating scene (at least in my town) is getting very old & quickly.
- I'm tired of spending my precious time "training" them & in the end, it's all in vain.
- I love to travel & as much as I love my road dawgs, I wants (yes wants!) me a man to travel the world with.
- I've had my fun (probably more than my share, shhh.....) & I'm ready to get serious & share my life with someone special.
- Last but not least, I want someone who can fix shit and who will get up to see what went "bump" in the night! Y'all know I'm a scaredy cat!
Your turn!
1. Have someone to cook for!!! LOL Seriously I have all these recipes and no one to cook for.
ReplyDelete2. So I can get regular hugs, kisses, and affection.
3. To stop my sexual droughts!!! Dang it I wanna get some on the regular!!! LOL
4. Someone to travel with. I love my friends, but romantic travel is what I want.
5. The dating scene SUCKS. I'm sick of it.
1. The dating scene is quite scandalous (though so are some of these co-called "relationships")
ReplyDelete2. I like consistency, a little tired of going through the whole "getting to know you" bit repeatedly
3. Your #3,
4. Feels nice to snuggle with someone regularly
5. I'm ready
Punk ass LOL
ReplyDeleteHell, ditto both of y'all!
ReplyDeleteExcept TNP, your #1. He can cook for me, thank you very much! :-)
1. Cause I know i'm ready and have been longing to share all the love I have with them to them.
ReplyDelete2. Dating stinks or even talking to prospects who end up being rejects stinks too.
3. I want to cook again too...loved cooking for my man.
4. I'm ready to have a family, you know children.
5. I want to do the things that lovers do (sex, kissing, petting, vacations, romantic get-aways, family reunions, dates, did I mention sex?).
Then don't get married. CTFU
ReplyDeleteExactly!!! And I have wayyy too much love to give to waste it on these dating prospects or aka "maybe-baby's" as I call them
ReplyDeleteROFL Rob you are so wrong. I'm gonna be the wife who sexes her husband on the regular!!!!
ReplyDelete^5 I'm with you on that right there!!!!
ReplyDeleteImma break it down like this. I enjoy my single life but it doesn't mean I am opposed to being married....TO THE RIGHT WOMAN. That being said, if its cool, then I'm cool.
ReplyDeleteI don't know about marriage being the answer to your celibacy.....I've known many a couple where THE MAGIC wasn't happening and one of the two was highly frustrated and cheating.
I think marriage can be a beautiful thing between two people willing to make it work and willing to put the other first at least HALF of the time.
Well, this set of questioning yesterday and today is putting me in quite a predicament..
ReplyDeleteWell, I like relationships because:
1) I like being with one person and having that familiarity, instead of having to learn someone new...
2) Hopefully it'll lead to marriage, and I think Im still waiting for that before I have babies of my own... Aint looking to bright right now... But I love the idea of my kid or kids having a traditional family structure..
3) You tend to always have someone to cuddle with and other thangs.. Kinda have to take it as it comes when you're single... But as that goes, I can withstand a period of time without... uugghh @ the thought.
4) lol... Someone to cook for ME... Im not a great cook at all... lol
5) And truthfully Im a one person kinda gal... And Im not really good at this meeting and dating thing.. Well, Im gone try my hand at it again and see what happens..
Big Mo... you making me think to dang on hard these days... lol
You can say that again Glam. Waaaay too much.
ReplyDeleteThat exists?
ReplyDeleteI couldn't even begin to pick out anything because you took the words right out of my mouth with your post. And where i'm standing now things aren't looking too good but i'll wait it out and see what happens from here.
ReplyDeleteAnd herein lies the problem LOL
ReplyDeleteHey it will for me!!! I'm insatiable I gotta have it!!! I can't speak for all wives, soon to be wives, or women, but ME if anything my hubby gonna be the one saying "baby nooooooo, I'm tired!!!!" LOL
ReplyDeleteYou are rare indeed.
ReplyDeleteAlright nah LOL
ReplyDelete^5...I second that. And my husband to be better watch out cause it's been about 4.5yrs now and i'm surely bound to tear something up when i do get it...*giggles.
ReplyDeleteLook I know if I don't, there is some other heffa who will want to!!! I figure if I wear his ass out, he won't NEED to look elsewhere unless he a greedy ass!!!
ReplyDelete1 yr for me so far!!! I will pray for your husband to be!!! LOL
ReplyDeleteSomeone who actually listened to Gladys Knight in If I Was Your Woman.
ReplyDeleteThat and other songs plus just from listening and reading what people have to say on the subject.
ReplyDelete1.) Alwayz got somebody available for 'Nassy Friday' @ "Naughtyville"
ReplyDelete2.) I have somebody to cook for.....(Yes...I can cook!!!!!)
3.) Have somebody to walk alone with on a moon-lit beach
4.) Have somebody I can hold really close at night
5.) And hopefully.....Have somebody like Tnp!!!!!!!!! "Put It On Me Baby!!!!! Put It On Me!!!!!!!" LOL
Shoot I'm gonna move to Jersey!!! He cooks, likes to walk on moon-lit beach, and likes to hold someone close at night!!!
ReplyDeleteMarquise diamond baby, Marquise diamond baby.
I ain't shame....being alone in 1700 sq ft and hearing shit at 2:00 a.m. ain't no joke. Normally I just say fuck it, turn over & go to sleep. LOL
ReplyDeleteThis is probably the one thing I miss most about my ex shacker-upper.
ReplyDeleteHot mama! Your prince might be reading this now & is on the way. LOL
ReplyDeleteLOL@Tnp!!!!!!
ReplyDeleteMarquise Diamond!!!!!!!!!!!!!
I think Im gonna miss that too... well, he's not a shacker-upper yet... but all that extra stuff.. yeah.. *sighs*
ReplyDeletePositive thoughts, I will read positive thoughts!!!! LOL
ReplyDeleteChile look, TG would even iron my clothes everyday. I HATE IRONING! I threatened to leave the house once in out-of-the-dryer jeans and homie flipped! You know how black men are about their jeans. I didn't iron for 5 years.
ReplyDeleteSome might even call that real love...lol I gotta wonder if me and The Dude are actually black... Cuz neither of us iron clothes... lol We never really go out the house super wrinkled, but we take the clothes out the dryer and just fold them or hang em up... Anyway, but i know what you mean...
ReplyDeleteIm kinda at that crossroads right now, where Im trying to decide if I wanna stay in a not so bad relationship thats lingered on forever but doesnt seem to be progressing the way i want or need it to... And then the other option is, to cut off the ties and wait or seek something or someone new... Thats like the hardest thing to decide, because Im not really sure if Im giving up something thats not so bad only to be let down when I dont find what I need... Or if Im just over analyzing this and not being content with what have... But also wondering if I stay will I be missing out on something so much better...
Most folks say follow your heart and do whats best for you... I understand that, cuz i used to say that to other people... But its hard as hell... It would be so much easier if he were a manipulator, liar, abusive or some shit like that... But he's not... Some say why am I complaining, cuz so many ppl are by themselves right now... But if you have hopes, desires and a certain way you think things otta go, should you continue to have only what someone else wants to give you and be still... Or forget all that and go after what you want... But what if you're let down... what if you dont find what you're looking for and you find yourself in a bad state because you let go of someone that wasnt so bad....
This is where I get stuck...
Red... I feel your pain, sis...
ReplyDeletebut I gotta say this... to continue to do what you've always done and expect DIFFERENT results is insanity...
I left my 3yr old's dad... he wasnt a manipulator, an abuser, or any crazy thing... I just wasnt getting the love I wanted and needed... we had been together for a about 5yrs off and on... never lived together... but he was stable... and I knew he loved me... in his way... just wasnt enough...I felt like he was apathetic to my needs... and when that apathy went spilled over into the relationship with his son... I was done... I walked when my baby was a few months old...and dude remained apathetic...
I worked on getting my heart and emotions freed from that situation... and once I felt good about my choice... here comes my sweetie ... its been 8 mths... but its the love I wanted from babydaddy... caring... consistant... compassionate... I'm glad I let go... because now I have something BETTER to hold on to.
Just my twenny dollas on the subject...
(I know... I never answered the actual blog question... *sigh* LOL)
Thats kind of where we are... He's a really good guy... But I think I got stuck on that "good guy" thing.. thinking that he was the only good person that i would luck up on and have been scared to venture outside of him for a long time... More than anything I think I really better start praying harder on this... Cuz I am so confused right now... I think situations like this are so much easier if the other party were a severe asshole, but thats not the case...
ReplyDeleteI just dont know...
and I appreciate your twenty dollas..
Can I get a HIGH FIVE???!!! I'm tired of fixing shit.
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