"I'm open-minded." and/or "I'm seeking a woman who is open-minded."
I swear fo' God & 12 honest men, if one more man approaches me with this bull, I'm gonna be inclined to slap him to sleep!
What is it with all this "open-minded" crap? Why don't you just come out & say what you really mean? Like, you're looking for a bi-female or one who participates in the lifestyle {swinging}. 99% of the time, that what it boils down to. Fellas, I need you to chime in and let me know if I'm off-base or totally wrong. I truly want to know. Ladies, you should feel free to comment as well.
Speak on it.
PS Before y'all sentence me to burn at the stake, I will reiterate that I have nothing against homosexuals, bi-sexuals, tri-sexuals or swingers. I do not & will not base my friendships on someone's {legal} sexual preferences. Grown folks should do as they damn well please.
ok i will be the first to say that it is intriguing and you are not off base about it. i mean in a sense it aint nothing wrong with that if that is what she is than so be it. i kind of find that adventurous in a woman.
ReplyDeleteSean stole my words. So I'll just co-sign and play some EWF.
ReplyDeleteall good rob we from the same area so i already know that how u think
ReplyDeleteAll I have to say, is just be yourself and never mind what someone thinks or say.
ReplyDeleteNo offense, but most men see those kinds of interests in a woman as his personal segue into all things freaky.
ReplyDeleteMonni - honey.. as a bisexual and a former swinger, I WHOLEHEARTEDLY co-sign your message. I tell them them sorry ass motherfuckers to head to either AdultFriendFinder or OnlineBootyCall.com
i am not thinking in that sense. i admire a woman who is free to be herself and confident as well it doesnt matter what they are because at the end of the day it is all about who they are on the inside. sure it may be considered freaky but on the flipside it is more of strength in one's identity which is rare these days
ReplyDeleteOMG can I slap them to sleep with you please, pretty please!!!
ReplyDeletelol @ slap him to sleep...
ReplyDeleteI can relate!
It's really annoying because once I figured out what these men meant by open-minded they kept trying to change my mind on certain sexual things. Everyone has a limit with regards to sexuality and well I know mine!!! Just because I said I'm curious about something does NOT mean I want to actually TRY it!!!
ReplyDeletethat is what i am talking about u still have the strong mind and sense to know what your limitations are and it is nothing wrong with that and that is what i find admiring. that you dont have to take it to the limit
ReplyDeleteNo disrespect... but as a woman who's lived the life, I know what kinda BS the vast majority of men are thinking when they find out about my "past"... a) they're trying to figure out how to get me to relive some of my glory days and then b) they're pissed cause I refuse to do it with them.
ReplyDeleteA lot of men won't even seriously date a woman that's expressed her freaky side.
that is their loss. i rather date a woman that is not afraid to express themselves than someone who has to live a lie just to please.
ReplyDeletei would date you and would not care about your past that just means you lived what others are thinking or afraid to do
ReplyDeleteWhich IMHO is STUPID. shows a level of THEIR insecurity.
ReplyDeleteI think that a lot of women do take it to the limit even when they don't want to just to please their man. I'm all for pleasing my man, but not at the cost of being uncomfortable in the process.
ReplyDeleteto me reason why insecurity is so rampant is because we don't ask the questions needed to soothe our selves. instead of being a hater ask what you need to do to please you and make life easier for the both of you
ReplyDeleteSean I like the way you think!!!
ReplyDeleteI agree with you. First of all just because someone had all these "experiences" does not mean they were GOOD ones all the time.
I find this very interesting but why does it always have to be about sexuality when dating? Humans are more than sex organs.
ReplyDeleteBecause that's what some people look for more then any other quality. With some men that's what they want to know FIRST. How long we will make them wait, how soon they will get some, all of that.
ReplyDeletetrue but in a sense think about it. how many times we hear about somebody's date and it came down to the sexuality part instead of the intellectual. it is sad that we put this in a category of sexuality as a determination of whether or not there will be a second or third date.
ReplyDeleteplus most guys have heard that term of a woman knows the second she sees a man if she is gonna sleep with him that same night and guys get prepared for that. i am not gonna front i have a couple times and even though i am proud to say there were not many conquest from that i do learn that based on that term most guys set themselves up for that and vice versa.
ReplyDeleteI have to admit, I was once like that too. Honestly now, I want a woman friend with intellectual power. There is much more talking time now that I am older. LOL
ReplyDeleteFirst let me say that to each his own and whatever floats ones boat (safely) then more power to them.
ReplyDeleteSo unless I'm misunderstanding the"open-minded" definition for things "99% of the time" as Ms. Mo described (and correct me if I'm wrong) this is basically a man wanting to "invite" another woman into their sexual activities, whether it be FMF, FF, MF+ (meaning more than one) or MF while other F watches, etc.
Now- this is not "Specifically" directed to the men in this blog (this is a question in GENERAL)-
But of all these men that want a WOMAN to be "open-minded"- would they feel the same way if SHE wanted HIM to engage in "certain" sexual actitivies (e.g. being intimate with another MAN)? The reason I ask this is because "open-mindedness" goes both ways: if men encountered a WOMAN who was open to swinging or FF action, would they be so quick to OBLIGE her if she wanted THEM to get "freaky Deaky" with another MAN for their sexual pleasure as well? I'm sure there are ladies who want an "open-minded" man in their life too. I'm just sayin'.....
true nowadays youngins are more interested in getting it . as much as i like to get it, it won't faze me if it happens or not it is all about the individual and if we can get along.
ReplyDeleteI hear you on this one, However- dating without SEXUAL tension = PLATONIC FRIEND OUTINGS!!!
ReplyDeleteThe truth of the matter is NO ONE is going to date someone they have NO sexual attraction to (no matter HOW good their CONVO is, how good of a FRIEND they seem to be nor if they seem compatible in other areas). This is just the reality for damn near EVERY homosapien that has had a taste of "WOMB" or "GIRTH"! Now you may be on a date with someone that you're trying to get to know in every way EXCEPT sexually, but let's speak the truth about it: SOONER OR LATER you ARE going to think about the SEX aspect of it. It may not be RIGHT OFF (although it probably is because you KNOW if you're sexually "attracted" to someone MOMENTS after you meet them in MY opinion) but it WILL happen.
Here is the problem in my old age opinion, the sex act can't last for ever. What happens with the sex ends? Everyone gets up and go home?
ReplyDeletetrue dat and what can you do to revitalize general interaction once the sex act is gone and the regular convo disappears
ReplyDeleteFight like Hell. LMBFAO!!!
ReplyDeleteThis is a VERY true thought process! I agree with you 100%. What "I" am hitting on is the fact that when you INITIALLY meet someone and you decide you want to "date", it's not just because they're "brain" is so sexy! It's because of what you SEE and 9 times out of ten, everything ELSE comes AFTER. There's nothing wrong with that, but just like you mentioned- as long as there's something more than just a BODY and a FACE to go with it, it should be a blessing if you're feelnig each other.
ReplyDeleteBUT- you also have to take into account your partner's "Sexual appetite" when figuring "compatability". You can't be "Mr. Sexual Conservative" and think that you're going to have BLISS with a woman whose "Mrs. EXPLORE and CONQUER". So, this is where Brotha Seanblaze's statement rings true: "we don't ask the questions needed to soothe our selves." There's nothing wrong with "discussing" waht you like seuxally and if you're with it and you're safe- you're adults so GO FOR IT.
Does not mean it will happen though!!!
ReplyDeleteso true but u got most guys and females who feel embarrassed by asking thinking they are weak and have no game by asking and u do come across females as well as males who expect that other person to know what it takes to make the opposite sex feel good and basically the term "different strokes for different folks" come into place
ReplyDeleteexactly for all we know you could be talking about having sex with the person in the mind.
ReplyDeleteI agree.
ReplyDeletePersonally I have never been involved in a threesome but can state that if my wife were to ask me to be a member of one, I would providing the other partner was female. If it was male, divorce court here we come. I know this is a double standard. LOL
ReplyDeleteI agree. I think it's all about TIMING. You shouldn't WAIT to ask about it when you're IN THE PROCESS of having sex or AFTER...... if one REALLY wants to know they should have a "conversation" BEFORE so they are aware of what their partner likes.
ReplyDeleteExactly.
ReplyDeleteI'm not going to lie and act like I did not think "he could get it" when I saw a fella. But once they open their mouth sounding like a high pitched chipmunk all bets are off. LOL Granted physically drives a person initially, but then you want to know if you will be compatible outside of the sex. Well I do. But that's just me.
Yes it is!!! LOL But most men feel that way.
ReplyDeleteThus, my ORIGINAL reply in this particular blog. *lol*
ReplyDeletewell i aint gonna front i did a threesome with a couple once but i would prefer ffm
ReplyDeletewell i wouldnt mind messing with you but u my business partner and it may hurt my percentage lol
ReplyDeleteLOL See you a smart man, not trying to mess with the money!!! LOL
ReplyDeleteThat is sooooooo true.
ReplyDeleteI don't knock anyone for wanting that in a woman, but it's 2008, just ask point blank - Are you bi? Do you swing? Bump that open-minded crap. Even tho it chap my ass, I would much rather be approached with a truthful question that that beating around the bush mess.
ReplyDelete*nodding in agreement*
ReplyDeleteNow if I were on said sites, I wouldn't have an issue with the question/statment. Afterall what does one expect from onlinebootycall? Dinner and a movie? Not!
Exactly!
ReplyDeleteExactly!!!!
ReplyDeletei agree as well at least me you or anyone else will get the freedom of choice to decide whether or not we want to deal with a person
ReplyDeleteMy most favorable dating experiences came from OBC... and I think it was because of the implications that meeting someone on such a site provided. I actually did get a few dinner and a movie outings (followed by.. well... you get the picture).. LMAO
ReplyDeleteI can only speak for what I have experienced. When the 1st words of out his mouth is regarding my "open-mindness" he is not trying to date me. He wants to fuck me AND my friends too!
ReplyDeleteSUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUURE you can fuck ALL my friends...
ReplyDeleteas long as I can fuck all of yours....
and you know the interesting part about that is...most guys and girls would make that a one sided deal.
ReplyDeleteThis was next on the schedule! You read my mind!
ReplyDelete*co-signing*
ReplyDeleteMen have to wonder if they'll get the panties. We (women) know from the moment we lay eyes on a man if he will get them.
So true. HE can do everyone, she can't!!! How is that fair? Hrumph!!!!
ReplyDelete*whispering* Even tho I haven't been on said sites, BP, Yahoo Chat rooms & 360 will forever be in my heart.
ReplyDeleteI freaking luv this chic!
ReplyDelete$20 in your collection plate, sis
ReplyDeleteThe sad thing about the realization is that some women DO have open-minded brothas in their lives: they're called DOWN LOW brothas! They're VERY open to doing different things- as long as NO ONE finds out about it.
ReplyDeleteBWAHAHAHAHAHAHHAHAHHAHAHAHAAAA!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
ReplyDeleteI'm jess sayin... I know I have sexy female friends ... some of THAT negro's homies be lookin kinda good... and I see em looking @ me... sheeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeyiiiiiidddd... Fair exchange is no robbery, mayne!
ReplyDeleteGurrrrrrrrrrl, you and I both know the answer would be, well, uhhhhhhhhh, NEVERMIND! LMBOOOO
ReplyDeleteSmdh...yeah..I'm open-minded enuff to hear u out and then slap the shit out of u for even comin at me like that!!!
ReplyDeleteYanno, I always wonder if there is something on me that I ALWAYS get those kind of approaches too. I mean, will bleach help get whatever that is off of my face?
ReplyDeleteI just think guys have gone mad...they dont' know wut to say out their mouths. With all of this sexual freedom going on...they just let it all hang out and it doesn't matter who they say it too.
ReplyDeleteWhy buy the cow when the milk is free? LOL
ReplyDeleteI agree. And that goes for guys AND women..
ReplyDeleteit was a time when u knew who and when to say these things too but know it just like..here I am, take me for who I am and nix how u feel about it. Ur either down with me or I'm gonna keep it movin...huh?
ReplyDelete*running to the store to get some bleach...lmao*
Monni, I can't stand that term and I've written a blog on this before. Just because you have boundaries people want to claim you are not "open minded." That's some BULL! Open minded does not mean you are OPEN and WILLING to experiencing everything. And if it does, then just call me closed minded and let's call it a day.
ReplyDeletepick me up some too...
ReplyDeleteA gallon of bleach for everybody....................
ReplyDeleteYou know what's funny? The last cat that asked me that question (face to face), I replied with, "I sure am. I open to travel to foreign lands, experiencing different cultures and maybe even new food if it doesn't gross me out. I'm also open the latest fashion & trends."
ReplyDeleteThis negro had the dumbest look on his face. Probably the dumbest I'd ever seen in my life. Boy bye!
And yet, as we continue to date, we will see even dumber looks. LOL
ReplyDeleteLMAOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO
ReplyDeleteI was getting ready to say..I know he got up and leave ur ass alone!!! I'm surprised he listen to ur entire speech. That's wut I'm talkin about...I just want someone who can understand for a change. Have a half way descent conversation..damn is that to much to ask for!!
SmdH and leaving the room....
sad part..ur right!! I'm depressed now....
ReplyDeleteYou mean low down don't you?
ReplyDeleteOKAY!!!!! Which is some fragganaggle BS!!!
ReplyDeleteROFL!!!!!
ReplyDeleteOk the term of"Open Minded" is out, lemme try this...How about life"A freak wif a lil Church in her" or "A ho wif housewife potiential" ?
ReplyDeleteThe last I heard, you couldn't turn a ho into a housewife. Has that changed? *lol*
ReplyDeleteI did not say make her a housewife, she just needs to be able to know the diffence...Lol
ReplyDeletebigdaddxl cracks me up. LOL
ReplyDeletelmao... how did I miss this one... I think this phrase is like one of those popular catch alls... the in thing, the whats up phrase, the let me spit my game while I see what I can get out of her phrase... While all along, you, I, and most other normal chics want whats simply on ya mind... Dont throw a general let me see what I can get comment... If you want some mhmm just say so, dont beat around the bush thinking you'll get some anal love... or some whips and shit...
ReplyDeleteI think I may have just gone way off... lol