Monday, June 30, 2008

Black Doctor - Complete resource for African American health, fitness, nutrition and weight loss

http://www.blackdoctor.org/index.aspx
A website geared towards OUR health and OUR risk factors.

Casual Dress WEEK!

Rating:★★★★★
Category:Other
Despite a lot of the dumb (imho) shit that goes on around here, it's the little things that count & since the lay-offs, employee morale is understandably low.

Since the office is closed on Friday (and I'm taking off Thursday as well), I decided we need a red, white & blue casual dress week! What's the point in having this fancy title they gave me it I can't use it for anything but business cards? Not to mention I can get dressed in 5-10 minutes flat on casual day.

It's the little things that can change one's attittude toward the workday.

What has little thing(s) has your employee done lately, that people really appreciate?

Sunday, June 29, 2008

Sunday Smooth Groove ~ Something in the Past ~ 1980




by One Way featuring Al Hudson

This song reached #76 on the R&B chart in late 1980.

Tahiti Club


Description:




Ingredients:
- 2 oz Light Rum
- 1 oz Lemon & Lime Juice (ea.)
- 1 oz Pineapple Juice
- 1/2 oz Maraschino Liqueur
- Garnish: Lemon Slice

Directions:
Shake all the ingredients in a shaker with ice and strain into an old-fashioned glass over crushed ice. Garnish with a lemon slice.

Will You Marry Me?

Rating:★★★★★
Category:Other
It's damn near 5 am and I'm sitting here watching an Essence documentary on innovative African-American marriage proposals on TV1.

I'm not ashamed to say I'm sitting here boo-hooing right along with the bride-to-be & most of the other ladies. The gents are manning up & holding back the tears.

Black Love IS alive and kicking!! My faith has once again been restored. ...y'all know I tend to lose it every now & again.

Saturday, June 28, 2008

Clothes Steamer HELP!

Rating:★★★★★
Category:Other
I really need and want a steamer. I want a good one, but don't want to shop blindly.

If you can recommend one, please do so, with appropriate star rating. If there are ones to mention those as well with the appropriate rating.

Thanks!

Other People’s Kids – Part I

Last July, I became guardian to 4/5 of my sister’s kids.  I love these children, but keep in mind, I don’t like kids (and I don’t feel guilty about it)….love them to death, preferably from a distance.  You can keep all of these lil crumb snatchers outta my personal space.  My son is an only child for a reason.

 

 

Let me tell y’all about Showtime aka Pretty Ricky.  He’s 13, smart & all his life folks have thought he was my son, not my nephew.  I call him Showtime because he’s very animated.  I also call him Pretty Ricky at times because he has this Bone Thugs thing going on with all this hair on his head & he thinks he’s fine.  He’s also quite fashion conscious.  At least as conscious as a 13 year old can get.  He’s pretty independent & of his 4 other siblings, he’s my favorite….just don’t tell him.  He’ll attempt to use it to his advantage.  He’s also a Gemini & works my nerves & the Rockwood School District’s with his moods.  This boy was moody from the day he was born.

 

 

Then there’s Cool J who’s 11.  They call him that because his real initials are LL.  Since he was about 2, I’ve called him Cole Brown, because he’s short & thick.  His genetics dictate he’ll {probably} never be taller than 5’6”.  He’s a mama’s boy to the bone!  He’s quite sensitive at times & a pit bull at others.  True Piscean.

 

 

Then there are the twins – 7 year-old Cancer females.  They are as different as night & day.  One is kinda bossy and must be heard.  The other is shy and reserved. 

 

 

This is where Nanny Rose, may she rest in peace, saved my life.  Without blinking an eye, she was willing to take them all if it meant keeping them out of the system.  Fortunately, it didn’t come to that.  She took her girls and I kept the boys.

 

 

This is also where having the kind of relationship I have with my manager paid off.  Due to the bullshit that comes with my bloodline, keeping secrets is too damn hard to do, so I've always shared most of the BS with her so she knew what was happening with me.  I've worked under her for a decade and just like my mother, she can look in my face and know that something's amiss.  Even tho she's partially disabled she offered to help.  She also made it easy for me to miss countless days from work to handle this situation.

 

 

Anybody who knows me, knows I had no intention of mothering any more children, let alone those who belong to someone else...family or not.  I used to be soooo glad my mother didn’t have a house full of kids, especially since I was the oldest.  She even told me once, had my father (who was 3rd of 11) lived, she probably would’ve had a bunch of kids.  Despite all that, now is the time when multiple, responsible, capable & caring siblings would so be a blessing!  Alas, that’s not the case.

 

 

These kids have literally turned my life, my house & my wallet upside down & inside out.  I was footloose & fancy-free for a minute & then duty called.  I was free to come & go as I pleased with worrying about the well being of someone else.  I was free to sleep all damn day & skip meals if I so desired.  Me & “my friend” were free to walk around naked as the day we were born & make as much noise during those intimate times as we wanted, without covering up, locking doors & worrying about virgin ears hearing grown folks business.  God forbid if these boys accidentally see my “dawgs” roaming free or his "solider" seeking some attention.

 

 

When the situation 1st arose, honestly, all I could think about was how I would be effected & how my life had to change. Selfish?  Maybe.  Honest?  Definitely!  I had to remember what my mother taught me about my selfishness a long time ago.  She would say, “MDB (of course using the entire name she had so carefully chosen for me), it’s not gonna always be about you!”  Let’s just say I think my mama knew.

 

 

To be continued……

Thursday, June 26, 2008

Benefits of Fu...er...uh...Love Making

D. Wizzy has a post about a good, hard orgasm also known as the cheapest stress reliever.

I know, on any given day, a good "one" will make me forget anything, everything and anybody who pissed me off. 

In my counselor/babysitter position at this office, I get paid to listen to whining, bitching & moaning.  There are so many times when I wish I could just say, "Get you some good dick and this shit won't even matter in the morning."  Alas, I can't. 

I wish I could send this out to my agency, but I do like and need my job, so I'll just share it with you.

Benefits of Lovemaking

 

As a Beauty Treatment: When women make love, they produce amounts of the hormone estrogen, which makes hair shine and skin smooth...

As an Astringent: Gentle, relaxed lovemaking reduces your chances of suffering dermatitis, skin rashes and blemishes. The sweat produced cleanses the pores and makes your skin glow...

As a Workout: Lovemaking can burn up those calories you piled on during that romantic dinner...

As a Sport: It stretches and tones up just about every muscle in the body. It`s more enjoyable than swimming 20 laps and you don`t need special sneakers...

As a Stimulant: It releases endorphins into the bloodstream,
producing a sense of euphoria and leaving you with a feeling of well-being...

As a Magnet: The sexually active body gives off greater quantities of chemicals called pheromones. These subtle sex perfumes drive the opposite sex CRAZY!!

As a Tranquilizer: It is 10 times more effective than Valium...

As Oral-care: Kissing each day will keep the dentist away! Kissing encourages saliva to wash food from the teeth and lowers the level of the acid that causes decay, preventing plaque build-up...

As a Pain Reliever:A lovemaking session can relieve headaches by releasing the tension that restricts blood vessels in the brain...

EEOC Gives Up Trying to Define “Internet Applicant”

http://hrwatch.counciloned.com/HRS-2007/May-June-2008/EEOC.html

Wednesday, June 25, 2008

Throwback Thurs. ~ Mr. Wendal ~ (1993)




by Arrested Development

...again, more music with a message.

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Arrested_Development_%28hip_hop_group%29

Drunken Fish - Central West End

http://www.drunken-fish.com/
My sushi eating co-workers forced me to go to this place...kicking & screaming! *lol* I don't do raw fish, seaweed or anything remotely related, but I went anyway because there are several other nearby spots I could've gone to alone, if necessary.

Long story short, I didn't try sushi, but I did have the Japanese Teriyaki Chicken Wings - Yumm!

Way Back Wed ~ Love Jones ~ 1972




by Brighter Side of Darkness

PS '72 was a wonderful year!

Tuesday, June 24, 2008

25 Year Old Sugar Daddy?

Rating:
Category:Other
This is one of the reasons I know myspace IS the devil. This message is a from 25 y.o. white male who claims to have just finished a tour in Iraq.

"Your really cute. Would you be interested in a sugar daddy? If so I use yahoo and would talk to you about it more on it. "

I thought Sugar Daddies were at least 50 years old...I guess I didn't get the memo. *eyeroll*

Useless Friends

Is there such a thing as useless friends? Hell yeah! All over cyberland and especially 360 Multiply. Why are there so many people who only want to populate their friends list with the most beautiful, freaky women & the most sexy fellas?

Maybe they just like to look at the pictures & laugh at the words (something my grandfather used to say). Oh well....to each his own. Personally, I like to stand out & if your page only contains a gallery of 249 other 360 Multiply beauties), & nothing more, what's the point? No thanks playa. I'll pass.

Are we more interested in the pretty faces & naked asses than the beautiful minds?

Not I!

have friends who are more than just pretty/handsome faces. Some I know personally & some I'll meet once our paths physically cross. These ladies & gents are educated, honest, intelligent, sophisticated, talented, funny, serious, informative, talkative, comical, classy, suave, debonair, spiritual & even sometimes a lil weird, but they definitely stand out & make you want to come back for more. Don't take my word for it.....you've seen their pages & comments. 

Just a shameless shout out you say? You damn skippy!

Handicapped Parking Fraud - Handicapped Parking Violators - Help Make a Difference

http://www.handicappedfraud.org/
Talk about being put on blast! If my Gramps were alive, he'd have me reporting mofos all day! LOL

Teenage Love Affair AND Why Myspace is the DEVIL!

I HATE Driving & the Cost of GAS Makes it Worse!

Personally, I enjoy nothing more than the peace & quiet of my home.  On the other hand, also enjoy(ed) the freedom of coming & going as I damn well pleased.  Some weekends I never left my house; others, I was constantly on the move.  It was my choice.  It was nothing for me & my BFF to get up & go to Wal-Mart (way out west) at 2:00 am or to go from one edge of town to the other, just shopping & bumming around whenever the mood hit.

I've never been one to plan running errands & such.  I simply did it as the need arose.  Not now!   If I need groceries, I carefully consider which store, other places are in the area I can hit, etc.  Just how many birds can I kill with this one stone?

We have a pretty decent public transporation system here, but it's not convenient for our office location.  I still can't complain because my drive (I was threatened with bodily harm the last time I referred to it as a commute) is only 2.3 miles one-way, from home to office. 

I guess the upside to this is that by not making as many trips and keeping my ass at home more often than not, I'm contributing to make our earth a greener place to be.

As usual, in closing, here's my question: How has the cost of fuel changed your lifetstyle or other habits?

Sunday, June 22, 2008

Multiple Airlines Baggage Policy Changes

http://travelocity.custhelp.com/cgi-bin/travelocity.cfg/php/enduser/std_adp.php?p_faqid=1678#bag

Betty Dodson: Adult Sex Education, Sex Toys, and Sex Videos

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Sunday Nitecap ~ Bulleit Southern Belle


Description:
Prep Time 5 min.


Ingredients:
1 1/4 ounces Bulleit Bourbon(TM)
1/2 ounce triple sec
12 ounces pineapple juice
1 tablespoon grenadine
2 ounces orange juice

Directions:
Add Bulleit Bourbon(TM), triple sec, pineapple juice, and orange juice to a tall, ice-filled glass.

Top with grenadine and stir once.

Sunday Smooth Groove ~ Here I Go Again




From Force M.D.s 1986 album Chillin'

...Lawd today.....

Friday, June 20, 2008

Best Jeans for Your Figure

http://shopping.yahoo.com/articles/yshoppingarticles/114/best-jeans-for-your-figure/

Friday Funny - Remember this?




Roaches! by Bobby Jimmy & The Critters 1986

I picked up my nephew from his friend's house & lawd....it's only a few blocks from my house so I made him walk home and made him take off damn near everything in the backyard BEFORE he came into my house.

I grew up in the projects & I ain't EVEN trying to go there....ever again. Nuff said!

What's Your Home Worth?

http://www.zillow.com/
According to this, my house has appreciated very well. I knew it had appreciated some due to the new and re-done homes in the area. Not to mention the revitalization of the the restaurants and nightlife. "The Grove" is on and popping! :o)

Thursday, June 19, 2008

Top Ten 'Don't Cha Love it When..,'

  1. You talk to God, Jesus, Allah, Jehovah (or whomever you look to for spiritual guidance) and you feel them answering your prayers;
  2. Your kid(s) & family say they love you and it's not followed by a gimme, loanme, letmehave (ran it together intentionally because that's how they sound);
  3. Your period comes...after the condom broke;
  4. Your child support is on time & just the amount you need;
  5. Someone offers to help without you asking;
  6. You put your stuff down & can come back & pick it up;
  7. Your kid does his chores without threats of bodily harm;
  8. A significant other totally & completely satisfies you in mind, body & spirit;
  9. You find a nice blouse that shows off your "rack" quite nicely;
  10. Your hairstyle turns out exactly how you wanted it;

Yeah I just love it when these things happen!

Your turn!

Quote of the Day 6/19/08

Rating:★★★★★
Category:Other
"Tell one lie, you have to tell a thousand. You have to remember all the lies to cover the 1st lie. The truth remains the same."

~Muda 1916-2000~

Top Ten Slept On Artist

1. Leela James

2. Conya Doss

3. Elisabeth Withers

4 . Dee Harvey

5. Van Hunt

6. Dionne Farris

7. Syleena Johnson

 

Wednesday, June 18, 2008

Throwback Thurs. ~ Ini Kamoze - Hot Stepper




One hit wonder with a funky dance/skate beat.

I'm Dating a Rapist

No, I'm not dating a rapist, but I am listening to our local station and there's a segment similar to Steve Harvey's Strawberry Letter (I forget what they call it) and here's the gist of today's letter:

Big Sis & Lil Sis are sisters and best friends.  Big Sis recently met and started dating a man who had served a 13 year sentence for rape.  Apparently, when Big Sis introduced this man to her family, Lil Sis took one look at him and fainted - the new man in in Big Sis's life is the man who brutally raped Lil Sis.  Big sister didn't realize at the time, but she now knows this and doesn't want to stop seeing this man, as she has developed feelings for him.

Lil Sis was only 12 when this happened and cannot bear children because of the physical damage he did.  She also cannot live alone due to other issues stemming from this traumatic event.

If these sisters were your loved ones, what advice would you give?

 

Tuesday, June 17, 2008

Way Back Wed. ~ Michael Cooper ~ Shoop Shoop




from 1992

From ConFunkShun to a short lived solo career, I love this dude.

SUMMER SALADS | Women's Health Magazine

http://www.womenshealthmag.com/nutrition/summer-salads?cm_mmc=Newsletter-_-2008_Jun_13-_-Nutrition-_-42.Super.Healthy.Salads.Top.1
For you salad lovers.

Flood Prep, Safety & Clean Up Tips

As some of you know, I work for a large insurance brokerage agency.  Unfortunately, when disasters happen it's like Santa's workshop around here for our brokers & claims specialists - busy, busy, busy!

Due to the recent flooding in the Midwest, the attached was provided by one of our carriers.  Feel free to pass it along.

Stay dry & stay safe!

Monday, June 16, 2008

There'll Be Sad Songs....

Ok now, ya'll know I go from one extreme to another with this blog thing, right? Riiiiiiight.

So I'm sitting here watching a Girlfriends re-run & I hear one of my absolutely favorite sad songs.  Sounds like an oxymoron, huh?  Well anyway, the sad song I'm speaking of is Donny Hathaway's "Giving Up".  Oh my God!  Whenever, wherever I hear this song, it's guaranteed to bring tears to my eyes.  I think I cry because it takes me back to a few relationships that I truly never got over.  Silly me, huh?

Here are a few others that get to me:

So Alone - y'all already know.

 

Missing You - great song but painful for me.

 

 

Better Days - if your granny was anything like mine
& she's gone to glory, you understand.

 
 
Dance with My Father - only on a good day,
I can listen to this one all the way thru.
 

 

Giving Up - Lawd....I can't even begin to explain it, so I won't even try.

Click here to check out Aaliyah's cover of Giving Up
(No one compares to Donny but I think she did the song justice.)

What sad songs are guaranteed to start your water works?

STLbay.com - St. Louis' Own "eBay"

http://stlbay.com/index.php?

Sunday, June 15, 2008

The Ditchdigger's Daughters 1997

http://www.imdb.com/title/tt0118989/
Like most, the book is better, but the movie is pretty good and a perfect one for Father's Day. It's not on DVD yet, but I'll get it when it does.

Dance With My Father Again - For the Fathers Who are No Longer with Us




This is one of the most touching videos I've ever seen.

Now that I've watched it & shed my tears, I can send this one out to those who knew the love of a father & lost.

Happy Father's Day to all the Real Fathers/Real Men!

Happy Father's Day, Daddy, Grandfather & Papa!

Frankie B. (1943-1973), my daddy, died when I was a less than 2 years old, so I never got the chance to really get to know him & I only have a few vague memories of him. However, my mother, aunt (his sister) and Muda & Papa made sure I knew who was. For that, I'll be eternally grateful. My daddy was a great father who adored his 1st born (me!) & a wonderful husband. I think that's why my mother never remarried. No one could replace my daddy. I have to admit that I still get angry sometimes about things that are out of my control & sometimes ask myself, "Why did my daddy have to die?!"

On a brighter note, I was lucky enough to have this man, Mr. Hugh Luther Jones (1903-1991) aka Papa aka Big Daddy. He was Muda's 4th husband & 13 years her senior. Her 3rd husband, Mr. Crawford Isaiah Saddler (1917-1957), was my biological grandfather & he passed when my mom was 5 years old.

Papa never had any biological children, but you'd never know it from the way he loved and accepted Muda's offspring. He loved his family, baseball, fishing, boxing (he got me into it) & hunting.

When I got pregnant, like Muda, he was heartbroken. So much so, I couldn't stand to look him in the face. I once overheard him tell Muda, "I don't know what she's gonna do, 'cause I'm done taking care of chi'rren". I was devastated. However, once my son was born, I couldn't tear him away from Papa. They were inseparable. I think him being a boy played a huge part, since our family is female dominated.

He was also your typical, grumpy old man. He had all these crazy sayings & most I forgot or never really understood what they meant. His favorite quote was, "Y'all gon' miss me when I'm gone." I'm here to testify, that he ain't never lied! I miss him so very much.

Now that I think of it, my Daddy & Papa are probably one of the reasons why I'm still single. I know what a real man is.

Saturday, June 14, 2008

Tanqueray Platinum


Ingredients:
1 ounce Tanqueray(R) London Dry gin
1/2 ounce orange liqueur
1 1/2 ounces pineapple juice
1 tablespoon ginger ale
1 wedge pineapple


Directions:
Mix Tanqueray(R) London Dry Gin, orange liqueur, pineapple juice and ginger ale.

Pour the cocktail into snifter over ice; add pineapple wedge to serve.

The Road Kill Cafe ~ In Loving Memory of Papa

A few weeks ago, we were having a group discussion & somehow it turned into the subject of dining {if you can call it that} on wild game. I'm here to tell ya, those folks had some wild ass stories about squirrel, possum & even bear! Image

Well Plyers, here's my wild game experience:

The year was 1978/79 {I was 6/7.}. The place was Muda's Kitchen. Papa had gone out with his buddies earlier in the day & when he came home he had this metal container covered with some kind of cloth. He dumped the contents of the container into the sink & covered it with the cloth. I asked him what he was doing & he told me to take my lil nosey tail on somewhere. I think "Scat!" was the term he used. {Yeah right!} He also told me to stay away from the sink. Needless to say, I didn't listen to him. As soon as the coast was clear, I tip-toed back into the kitchen to find out what the mystery object was. I pulled back that cloth and OMG!!! I damn near jumped outta my skin! It was a hairless, dead dog {I thought} but it still had eyes & teeth! Image Oh the horror! Image Papa was watching me the whole time & said "That's what your lil nosey tail gets!" I later learned it was skinned animal, a coon to be exact, that was gonna be Q'd. Mind you, I didn't know "coon" is was what country ass folks called raccoon! I was mortified. I only ate junk food & fruit that day. I was scared they would try to trick me into eating that po' lil raccoon!

Shortly, thereafter, Papa did trick me into eating something when I didn't know what it was. He told me it was chicken. It tasted a lil different but I ate the piece I had. I later overheard another adult mention how good the rabbit was. WTH?!?! They done killed the Easter Bunny & I ate him! Image I cried so much I made myself sick.

Man....I look back on those days and Image so hard that I Image......the good ole days!

Friday, June 13, 2008

I Only Stopped.....

....because.....well.......I don't know why I stopped.......well....yes I do....I'm a procrastinator!

Why can’t I ever finish what I start? Image

I’ve been this way damn near my whole adult life & it's starting to work my nerves.  I get all hyped about doing something & never get it finished.

Here’s a sample of my unfinished/never really started projects, tasks, and other: 

  • I bought a Hoover carpet cleaner & a Black & Decker scumbuster with every good intention on bringing my carpet back to life.  I haven’t done a damn thing with either of them.  
  • I paid over $100 for a bucket of paint to touch-up the many areas in my house that need it.  I ain’t touched up a damn thing.
  • I bought a nice electric roaster oven, with every intention of getting in my kitchen & getting my Big Mama Sunday Soul Food Feast on……NOT! 

This is just the condensed version, but you get the picture right?   Not to mention, this stuff ain't cheap!

Do I have OCD or something??  Are any of you "suffering" from the "I'm always 1/2 assed-doing stuff-itis"?

Thursday, June 12, 2008

Local St. Louis group protests high gas prices

http://www.kmov.com/justposted/stories//kmov_localnews_080612_gas.26ecc5e2.html
I saw these people this afternoon as they were around the corner from my office.

Top Ten Things Every Man/Woman Should Have

Here's my list:

  • At least one (1) real male friend
  • A voice that makes you listen (not the tone, but the words)
  • A sense of self
  • A place to call home.  (Never cohabitate with a man who will have no where to go if things don't work out...even if it's his momma's or big momma's house, just be sure he can get ghost if necessary)

Stalker Jamz!

Okay friends, I want all you music lovers to name a few songs that have stalker-like, stalkerish lyrics & undertones.  I especially want to hear the ones, you turn up & sing out loud with.

The ones that readily come to mind for me are:

In My Mind - Heather Headley
 
Walking in The Rain - Oran "Juice" Jones
 

 
 
 
Every Breath You Take - Police
 

 
 
 
Congratulations - Vesta
 
 

 
 
Never, Never Gonna Give You Up - The Maestro
 

 
 
 
Don't Go - Dreamboy
Click here for the vid (song)
 
 
 
Until You Come Back to Me - Aretha Franklin
 
 

 
 
Somebody's Watching Me - Rockwell
(altho this might be more paranoia than anything)
 
 

 
 
 
Never Gonna Let You Go - Various Artist
 

 
 
 

 
 
 
 
 

Throwback Thurs. - Space Cowboy - 1983




by The Jonzun Crew

How many of y'all remember them? I used to love this one!

Top Ten Belt It On Out Tunes

What top ten tunes do you tend to belt out when you hear them?  Keep in mind it doesn't matter whether you can actually sing.  Me, myself personally couldn't carry a tune if you gave me a bucket, but that does not stop me.  A few of my connects can tell ya! 

1 - What Cha Gonna Do for Me - Chaka Khan - I alway think of my son sitting in the backseat damn near screaming, "Mama noooooooo!" LMAO

2 - Walk Away from Love - David Ruffin - This makes me think about him & the emotions are too strong to hold back.

3 - All Cried Out - Lisa Lisa & Cult Jam - Reminds me of my 1st high school heartbreak .

 

 

Wednesday, June 11, 2008

The Office Professional Job Board

http://jobs.officeproletter.com/home/index.cfm?site_id=504

Parents Who Reward Bad Behavior

This is something that also chaps my ass - bad ass kids with the best money can buy.  Why?!?! 

Help me understand why Man-Man can fail all his classes & cuss the teacher out, but he's wearing the latest, most expensive gear & has a video game set up that would bring a tear to Sony's eye.  Help me understand why Kee-Kee won't get up off her lazy ass, sweep the floor, take out the trash or wash a dish, but she goes to the salon for pampering like clockwork, as if she has a damn job.  These things are a priviledge, not a damn birthright.  These lil fuckers have gotten over like a fat rat! 

With the exception of having too much mouth & being way too sassy (I've got memories of the split lips to prove it), I was a pretty good kid.  I certainly didn't have everything I wanted, but now that I am grown, I realize I did have everything I needed.

I used to be envious of kids who had 'things' (like Jordache jeans & Colecovision to name a couple), I didn't when I knew damn well I was more deserving than they were.  Just didn't seem fair.  I now know that my mother was taking care of us using her widow's pension & my grandparent's were also retired & not even trying to hear about spending that kind of money on material things.

As the old folks say, we live and we learn & they ain't never lied.

I promised myself that if I ever had kids (and I did way too soon), I'd go to the end of the Earth to provide him/her with some of the things he/she wanted, providing he/she was deserving,

Those who know me, know my boy had a different idea.  I, in turn, let the punishment fit the crime.  The last video game system I purchased was a Sega Genesis (trust that I still play me some Sonic on ocassion).  

He was about 12 the last time he had a birthday party, the last time he saw his name on a box under the tree & the last time he traveled for anything other than a funeral.

Tennis shoes that costs more than one of my utility bills were definitely out of the question.  He did get lucky a few times tho when I found a BOGO 1/2 off sale & I could cop a pair also.  I've even gone so far as to prepare a steak & shrimp dinner (one of his favs) and not offer him a bite.  It's Top Ramen or Chef Boyardee for you son.

The law states I have to provide adequate food, clothing & shelter.  It says nothing about spending my hard earned dollar on the latest & greatest for an ingrate.  He didn't do what he I required of him, so I only did what the law required of me.

Most of my friends say I'm a mean-ass moma & was too harsh.  Damn that.  I work too hard to give my money to an undeserving anybody....especially one I gave birth too.

As always, the floor is open.

Sunday, June 8, 2008

Sunday Smooth Groove - Searching For Love




by Midnight Starr

Y'all just don't know. When I'm in my zone & start singing this one, it ain't nothing nice. LOL

Grenade


Ingredients:
1 1/2 pomegranates
3/4 cup dark rum
1/2 cup grenadine
1/4 cup fresh lime juice
1 cup club soda or seltzer
Ice cubes


Directions:
Cut whole pomegranate in half and with a manual citrus juicer squeeze enough juice from halves, pressing sides against center of juicer and pressing on any whole seeds in juicer with thumbs, to measure 1 cup. Just before serving, in a 1 1/2 quart pitcher stir together pomegranate juice, remaining ingredients, and enough ice to fill pitcher.

Saturday, June 7, 2008

MyFox St. Louis | 4 Year Old Shoots His 2 Year Old Brother By Accident In Alton, Illinois

http://www.myfoxstl.com/myfox/pages/News/Detail?contentId=6698581&version=4&locale=EN-US&layoutCode=TSTY&pageId=3.2.1
Let us pray for this child's recovery.

If you must have a gun in the house, PLEASE exercise extreme caution if minors will be in said home.

Swingtown Video: Pilot on CBS

http://www.cbs.com/primetime/swingtown/video/video.php?cid=717763011&pid=ZztyMldB3T5t8RYk4jAJx8ynJBwR_98m&play=true
Did anyone else watch it? I thought it was pretty good.

Al Green Ft. Corrine Bailey Rae - Take Your Time




When Classic Old School meets Fab New School! This is what music really is.

Happy Birthday to my Favorite Entertainer of All Time!

Happy 50th birthday to
His Royal Badness! 
 
That's right!  Prince Rodgers Nelson is the G.O.A.T. (Greatest of all Time)....at least in IMHO (that's In My Humble Opinion....not I'mma Ho Image)!   This man has been making tunes to groove to, have sex to & make love to since 1978 (damn....I was 6).  

He does it all: sings, writes, produces, plays instruments, dances (no one can jump & do splits in 4 inch heels like he can) & acts.  Well, his acting could use a little work, but how could you not love Purple Rain & Under the Cherry Moon?

I remember hearing "Lil Red Corvette" and trying to figure out what the hell he was talking about....."pocket full of horses"???.  Of course it all went over my head.  Hey, I was only 10.    Fast forward to 1984's Darling Nikki - I actually learned a few things from this record.  I thought Nikki was nasty slut for masturbating in the hotel lobby.  What did you expect from a 12 year-old know-it-all? Image

If I had to pick an all-time favorite, it would have to be "Adore".  That is seriously, one sexxxy song!  Followed by I Hate U, Kiss, D.M.S.R. (Dance, Music, Sex, Romance), Scandalous, International Lover, Baby I'm a Star (I gotta get up & shake my groove thang when I hear that one) & Let's Go Crazy.  Even Muda liked Pop Life.

Do you remember the 1999 calender?  Caliente!! 

When "When Doves Cry" was released on 45, my mama sent me to SoundTown (a local Wrecka Stow..only real fans will get this) to it.  Imagine my awe when I pulled it out to check for scratches & that joker was actually purple!  A purple record!!  Who'da thunk it? *lol*

I paid $75 whole, hard-earned dollars to see the Musicology concert & of course it was worth it.

I just wanted to show my appreciation for a true entertainer who doesn't need a lot of 4-letter words & countless video hoes to sell records.  Although, his music does bring a few 4-letter words to mind....Image

PS....I was dreaming when I wrote this, forgive me it goes astray.

 

Friday, June 6, 2008

Rest in Peace Nanny Rose

Monday evening, Mrs. Grovena "Nanny" Johnson aka Ms. Rose lost her battle with cancer.  She was 67 years old.

I came to know Ms. Rose about 6 years ago.  She was the grandmother to a friend of my sister's.  When she 1st laid eyes on the twins (my nieces), they were "her" grandbabies.  I was happy about that since they will never know my mother.

Ms. Rose was that elder black woman who never met a stranger & whose door was always open.

When things went awry in my family last summer, she was right there for me.  Never blinking an eye!  For that, she will always be in my heart.

She told me then that even tho we weren't blood, I was no different than any of her grandchildren.  She even whispered that she liked me better than most of them anyway.

I noticed a few weeks back she seemed to be getting worse, but she would never say so.  She didn't want anybody fussing or worrying over her.

The last time I called to check on her, I asked if she needed anything.  Most times she said no, but this time she wanted 3 tacos from Jack in the Box, some bottled water and some band-aids.  When I got to her house my heart dropped.  Here was this vivacious, blonde haired senior citizen, now barely able to breath or speak.  I almost started to cry.  She hushed me.  She then managed to whisper, "I'm not afraid & I love you."

I told her I loved her right back & I was only a phone call away.  She said, "I know. I've always known."  That was our last conversation.

She was cremated today, per her wishes and a memorial service will be held next Saturday at her church home.  I know her suffering is over and she is at peace.

Rest in Peace Nanny Rose.  You will be missed.  Every time I watch Lackawanna Blues, I'll think of you.

Love,

Your Big Baby

Thursday, June 5, 2008

Words to Live By

These are a few things, I've heard over the years and they tend to stick with me.

"The company you keep determines the trouble you meet." - Muda

"Girl, you aren't the only one in the world to go thru heartbreak.  Where do you think all those sad ass songs come from?" - Mama

"Find 'em stupid, keep 'em stupid." - Uncle (...you have to know my uncle)

"Y'all gon' miss me when I'm gone." - Papa

Feel free to share yours.

Throwback Thurs. - What People Do for Money - 1984




by Divine Sounds

Considering our current economy, sad to say this is right on the mark....20+ years later.

Top Ten He/She Thinks....

I like/love ________ but couldn't be more wrong!

What are the top ten (10) things he/she mistakenly thinks/thought you would like but they totally missed the mark?

Me, myself personally:

1.  Just because I wanna fuck you doesn't mean I want to be your woman or that I'm trying to trap you with some baby mama bullshit.  One baby daddy is more than enough for me!
 
2.  I'm not looking for a sugar daddy!  Granted a sista could use some assistance, but until I connect with my enchanted love, I'll handle mine.
 
3.  Just because I'm alone doesn't mean I'm lonely.  Sometimes I prefer my solitude.  If I do get lonely, I know how to fix it.
 
4.  I don't like sexual surprises!  Don't try to spring anything on me, i.e., nipple clamps, anal-ease, hot wax, another woman, etc.  That shit will get you cut.
 
5.  Getting high and/or staying drunk isn't attractive to real women.  I will snatch a hair sample from yo ass!

Catalog Choice - Eliminate unwanted paper catalogs you receive in the mail.

https://www.catalogchoice.org/
I, for one, am sick of getting catalogs...JCP & Macy's are the exception.

Wednesday, June 4, 2008

Way Back Wed - Taxi - 1984




by J. Blackfoot

This one was in rotation at the Friday night fish fry/card party.

Taurus Horoscope 6/4/08

Rating:★★★★★
Category:Other
You've finally hit on the right way to tell that special someone how you're feeling, so sit them down and let them know. It might be hard at first, but it gets easier almost immediately!

Tuesday, June 3, 2008

Prison Time or Not? What say you?

http://www.wftv.com/news/16348047/detail.html
As the mother of young black man, these lil fast ass wenches need to be checked....and soon! Yes, I can say that because I was one of those fast-asses!

Monday, June 2, 2008

Dedicated to Janky Service Providers Everywhere - Have a Nice Damn Day




And like Hurricane Annie,
I'll blow you away,
Whenever I'm in a battle,
Yo! I don't play,
So you best go about your way,
and have a nice day!

Work with me y'all...I'm trying to find a lil humor here!

Survival (Adult Language)




I have no words....you have to see for yourself

Sunday, June 1, 2008

Going to Church with Eddie Kane!




A fav scene & song from one of my fav movies.

This always moves me to tears because I think of Muda, my grandmother.

From the time I was about 10 and her health would bring her down, she'd be hurting so bad, I could hear her whisper at night, "Lord take me, because I'm ready." Since I was in her bed most times, I counter-prayed that He didn't. He saw fit for me to have her for 28 years and for that I'm eternally grateful!